You Got To Have The Want To


As men in a culture of technology and rapid information available at a click of a button, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with the vast amount of information available to us.

How to workout? Google it.

How to eat healthy? Google it.

How to have better sex? Google it.

How to build a dog house for Fido? Google it.

How to make more money? Google it.

How to invest money? Google it.

How to fold a pocket square? Google it. (or read this blog)

Literally every question a man has, can be answered to a certain degree, by using an internet search engine.

Into books? There’s literally thousands upon thousands of books available at a click of a button and you can even read them on your smart phone.

So with all of this vast information available to us men about how to become successful, what is holding us back from becoming the best man we were meant to be?

It’s not the lack of wisdom, tools and information on how to better us.

It’s the lack of applying ourselves.

You Have To Have The Want To


There is no excuse for not getting into the best shape of your life, making the most money that you can and bedding the most beautiful women in the world, besides a lack of will and effort.

Effort = Results.

I had an email from a fan the other day asking if there was a shortcut to getting better at Game.

There is not.

There is no MAGIC formula.

There is however, tools that can help you learn the secrets that men with more experience with women utilize, which will save you time, energy and effort, but at the end of the day, you must apply them.

You must approach girls.

You must put yourself out there to get rejected, in order for you to get accepted.

You Have To Have The Want To.

I can’t do it for you.

Your parents can’t do it for you.

Your girlfriend or wife can’t do it for you.

Your best friend can’t do it for you.

You and you only, control your destiny and you have to put in the effort to become great.

“Never underestimate the power of dreams and the influence of the human spirit. We are all the same in this notion: The potential for greatness lives within each of us.” –Wilma Rudolph

If it was easy to be great, everyone would be great, but how many truly great men do you know?

How many truly great men stand in history, over the millions of men who took the average route and died in obscurity?

Greatness is achieved through sacrifice, effort, energy and a sole focus to be the best at something.

Get obsessed with being great.

Because no one else will for you.

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9 Replies to “You Got To Have The Want To”

  1. I think it also comes down to your ego preservation too, or lack of, particularly in the early stages of your development. Admitting to yourself that you’re in a shit position in life, not looking your best, are dirt poor or other people are better than you gives you that sense of “well, I have to go and change it”.

    Telling yourself that everything is fine for your ego’s sake won’t get you anywhere. Seeing someone better than you, and admitting it rather than making an excuse for not challenging them, is vital. Unfortunately, too many people weasel out to keep their ego happy whether it’s saying “that girl looked like a bitch anyway” when they don’t approach one, or “it’s too late to go to the gym and it will be packed so I can’t get a decent workout”.

    Humility is one of the biggest factors for self improvement and motivation.


  2. I would agree in the sense that people who are naturally optimistic may have been born into a optimistic family and have been encouraged since they were young. There’s no doubt that your environment in your early developmental years plays a large part in how a person perceives life.

    The other point is valid too. Once you hit rock bottom, then you have to motivate yourself, or sink into nothing.

    I like what Zig Ziglar said about motivation: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”

    Daily motivation and affirmations, combined with actual EFFORT and DISCIPLINE, is a great combination for getting shit done and improving your life.


  3. “You can lead a horse to the water but you can’t make it drink”.

    The thing is with motivation is that it comes to you in two ways in my opinion: you’re either born with it, or you’ve hit bottom or a real low point and want to change your circumstances.

    You can’t just decide to be motivated. You can’t flick a switch in your head that says “I’m motivated now”. The want and desire, I believe, comes from something you’ve had since you were born, or something that’s made you think “where the fuck am I with my life?” – (attributable to anything).

    People can “want” a new job, can “want” a new body, can “want” a hot girl – but I think they’ve got to have reached at level in their life that’s made them really question their make up for a true, deep motivation to kick in.


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