Readers Questions Answered: Relative Getting Me A Hooker, Is 61 Too Old To Get Better At Game, Porn Addictions and Can A Politician Be A Player?

Today’s post are from readers from all walks of life who have varying questions on Game and Life.

Note: Names and locations have been changed to protect their identities.

QUESTION:

Hello Christian –

I’m am new to your great blog. I’m in the process of registering so I can comment. I just viewed your recommended list of 5 motivational videos. As is the case with most or all motivational videos and speeches, the achievement of our dreams is held up as the ultimate goal and then varyingly elaborate pep talks are used as fuel to get us there.

Often athletic or business successes are used as examples of those dreams. But my dream is to have sex with at least a 7. This has been unattainable for my entire life and I’m no kid. It’s due to several reasons, some explained and some unexplained. I’m 61 years old and I’ve never had a sex life. This is partly due to my suffering from various addictions and mental health issues until recently. I appreciate that you have shared your own personal life’s hardships online. I can relate to much of it. I’ve spent a night in jail and almost ended up in a psychiatric hospital. So that’s part of why a 60 plus guy hasn’t had a sex life.

Recently, after being friends with a 40 year old woman I met on Facebook, after 3 years, I began to become attracted to her. She lost a significant amount of weight and did other things with her appearance. We chatted privately online many times but never met in person. I’m in (Eastern part of US) and she’s in (South East part of US). But in March, there was a convention in (Eastern part of US) that was related to her profession so I asked her if she’d like to come up for the convention. She politely said “Thank you for the information but I don’t think so.”

We belong to a political debate group on Facebook where she’s an administrator and we share the same political views (left leaning) – or so I thought. Next day, she announces to the world that she’s in a relationship with another member of the group who’s brash, rude, calls women cunts, and leans very far to the right. And by the way, he lives in (Southern part of US). She immediately became a political rightwinger and is totally submissive toward him. I assume she flies to (Southern part of US) every weekend. I figured, if she should fall for anyone in that group, it should be me, since I am a very skillful debater. Because of this, I’ve had insomnia and I’ve had crying jags for 6 weeks now, with varying degrees of suicidal ideation.

I was devastated, realizing that I had fallen in love with her. Within the context of my life’s 40 years of no sex, my addiction to pornography and a fetish with female nudity, it has put me into a severe depression with involuntary sessions with online pornography that I can’t control while I’m imagining how he’s fucking her brains out and possibly “slapping the liberalism and atheism out of her.” I’d put her at a solid 7 and buxom.

I’ve been suicidal and have checked out therapy but haven’t been able to afford it as I am deeply in debt with no insurance and barely getting by financially. And because of my addictions, I have never been able to support myself and live with my 92 year old mother, in her house.

Is this just something that can be solved by becoming more alpha?

Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve had some successes in my life, primarily in a better than average education because of my above average intelligence. (In that debate group mentioned above, I often won debates.)

I have unfriended her and left the debate group but catch myself navigating to her pictures as they are accessible to the public.

So, given my circumstances, it’s easy for me to give up, saying I’ll never fuck a beautiful woman, especially one that’s 20 years younger than me.

Here’s my question: In your view, would you say it’s a legitimate goal just like all the other athletic goals in those videos to make a beautiful sex partner my dream to work toward?

Right now, I’m severely depressed and can’t stand the idea that this guy is seeing her naked, something I can only obsessively fanaticize about. At 61, I feel a little awkward going into the bar scene at night although I’m only attracted to women between the ages of 25 and 40. (By the way, would you say that age range is sensible for me at 61?)

So there’s my story. Sorry to ramble on but I am in great need of help. I can really use some feedback.

Thanks.

“Jack”

MY ANSWER:

Thank you for your patience in waiting for my reply. I was in Vegas for VHE trips and just got back early this morning.
The short answer for your question, is yes, it an attainable goal, BUT you have some work to do. It won’t be easy, but if you put in the work it’s doable.
First off, you must end the porn addiction. I understand addictions are hard and very real, but the porn is literally cockblocking you from meeting girls in the real world.
Example: I don’t mind porn and depending on my schedule will check some out a couple times a week, but this is what it does that has an ill effect on men, if it’s overdone.
1. It zaps your sex drive, because you get off from the images on the screen and it depletes your sexual energy from going out and meeting women. I know this to be true, because it happens with me and I’m 29yo. As we get older, our testosterone is depleted and having a porn addiction only makes it worse.
2. It causes us to view women as ONLY sexual objects, instead of being actual people. This causes us to have issues interacting in person with them.
3. The moment you NEED anything such as porn, alcohol or drugs, you become dependent and that makes you weak. As men we need to be strong and have a healthy balance in our lives.
You have to cut the porn out. Here’s a great site (I’m not affiliated with it), that will help get started: http://www.quitporngetgirls.com/
As far as the woman that you’re upset about, you have to leave it alone. She’s not for you and the moment you decided that no matter what you’re moving on and focus your efforts 100% on building your life, than you will start recovering. Trust me, I know what it feels like to be emotionally crushed and I’ve contemplated suicide after those breakups, but it is NOT the answer. You have to get a hold of your emotions and be rational.
There’s over 6 billion people in the world and she’s just ONE woman. There are plenty of other women out there for you, you just have to put in the effort.
Get on a schedule, quit the porn, take care of your body (eat healthy and workout), make a list of everything you need to get your life in order, sign up for online dating (great for men at your age to meet other women) and focus on what IS good in your life. Trust me, there are others who have it worse.
I can understand the bar scene not being for you and that’s okay.
What are your interests? What are your hobbies? Focus on joining classes and groups that share your interests where you can meet women. Take up salsa or ballroom dancing classes. These are great for men to join and meet women. If you can learn to dance well, trust me, you’ll have some sexy girls in there 20’s and 30’s who will dance with you and you can Game from there. This is just one suggestion, but you’re intelligent and get where I’m coming from.
I wish you the best and remember Rome wasn’t built over night. The best part of being at the bottom, is you only have one way to go: Up! I’ve been in the gutter and while it sucked, it made me strong. You will get there, but unless you quit, then you’ll never be a failure. Never stop going, never give up and focus on what’s positive and feeds your soul in a healthy way.
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QUESTION:
Hey Christian,

I’m in a really fucked up situation and with close to literally no one to talk about this.

Turning 17 in 26 days from now and here’s the thing: a family friend of mine asked me a few months ago if I’m still a virgin, when I said yes, he said he’ll get me an “elite” hooker for my birthday. This wouldn’t be a really big problem for me if he hadn’t told basically all of my close friends in a party.

That’s the problem, I don’t want my first time to be with a hooker, mainly for the purposes of it killing my reputation and out of respect for myself.
So I’d like your help on getting with a girl in the remaining 26 days (probs 25 when you read this).
Anyway, let me know if you can help me.
Cheers.
“Jason”
MY ANSWER:
What is the key component of being a man? Not being pushed around, or told what to do. I can’t guarantee you getting laid in 25 days, and to be honest I don’t think this should be your goal.
What I do think you should do is tell your relative, while you appreciate the offer, it’s not happening. It’s YOUR virginity, it’s YOUR decision and you’ll make it happen when you do.
I can tell you that he may give you a hard time, but he will respect you for taking a stand.
You may face some heat from the family, but if you really want to be a man, you have to STAND UP for yourself, grab your balls and tell them what’s up.
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QUESTION:
Hi Christian,First off, love your stuff; you are my favorite writer on RoK and started following your own blog because of it.
I do have a question which about a subject, which is politics; to be more exact, the question if going into politics is a good idea for a player.
Never seen an article about this on any game- related website, and I was wondering. A few months ago I got elected into my city council as a young guy, and I notice how being in politics changes the way people treat you.
Sure, I get more respect and earn a ton of money; however, the downside is you can’t really get away with a lot of stuff as everything you do is magnified in the media. Also, sometimes I gotta watch out with the girls I’m gaming, because a player- reputation ain’t great for a politician.
So, your thoughts on this?Kind regards,

“Brett”

MY ANSWER:

The situation you’re in is a very delicate one. You have to decide what do you want more: Girls, or a political career? 

Being a player in politics is asking for a political career suicide. It’s a double edged sword: you have power, money, connections, but yet you have a voting body made up of people who don’t respect a man who smashes every sexy slut in sight. It just doesn’t mix.

Either be extremely discreet and don’t ever give out real info about yourself to girls, or work on building a very small and close harem of 2-3 girls, or get a girlfriend.

Look at any of the politicians who have affairs or get some outside pussy from hookers and it usually ends their careers.

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4 Replies to “Readers Questions Answered: Relative Getting Me A Hooker, Is 61 Too Old To Get Better At Game, Porn Addictions and Can A Politician Be A Player?”

  1. Chris,
    I identify with hear guys struggles its like I was meant to read his today.

    My question-
    I’m 31 and have plenty of issues but I’ve always liked quality over quantity- I want to bang brazzers quality blondes but live in a boring place without much talent-‘I’m working on an advanced degree that would enable me to live in LA or Vegas.

    Does starting out banging 5s and 6s make you feel less of yourself or can you work your way up? Or would it better to just pay a Hustler video type of pork star escort like bad ass Gianna Michaels type of chick or a Spearmint Rhino Dancer lookin p4p- see I just want quality but don’t know how any of this will mess with my already
    Low self confidence. Thoughts?

    Ps- I promise you man if I have to do 1000 approaches to nail 2 or 3 Jesse Jane looking chicks if rather do that than have 30 plain Jane Sally 7s when I get to a baller ass town full of talent like LA.

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