My Biggest Issue with Game: Texting

(Christian here. This blog post is a Guest post from the winner of my From Beta To Alpha 6 Month Coaching Program Contest, Eric ‘The Chef’.)

It didn’t occur to me until a few months ago, how much improvement my text game needed. Face to face with a girl, I generally consider myself a charmer with a playful vibe and good stories about adventures abroad.

However, sometimes that humor does not transcend well into texting. I either get too silly, use too many smiley faces and have a hard time holding frame and getting the girl to pursue me.

One of my favorite parts of Christian’s mentoring program is how I have instant access to any game question I may have by texting him. At least 1-3 times a week I’ll not be sure how to respond to a girl’s message. I’ll take a screenshot of the conversation and send it to Christian for analysis, like James Bond sending enemy information back to Q Branch. He’ll breakdown how to better hold frame and convey a chill, non-needy vibe.


Here are 5 tips to texting I’ve learned along the way:

5) Turn Off Your Auto-Capitalization Feature On Your Phone.

Now when you text a girl, it has a much more laid back feeling.

4) Never Use Question Marks, Exclamation Points Or Emoticons.

For one, they just aren’t necessary. Your humor and wit should be conveyed without any of these features. You can laugh a bit, but don’t do it often. Remember, your life is fucking awesome and full of cool shit and you don’t have time to waste by texting girls. Hit her up, drop a bit of charm and plan the date.

3) Grammar Is Also Unnecessary.

Again, it just makes you more laid-back.

2) Respond At Her Pace, Or Take More Time.

If she responds back in 15 minutes, hit her back in 20. If she waits 2 hours, you get back to her in 2.5-3 hours. It doesn’t have to be exact, just remember that it all comes back to respect. If she doesn’t respect your time by responding promptly, she doesn’t deserve a quick response.

It’s human nature that when you send a text, you naturally check your phone within 1-5 minutes for a response. If you have more discipline, you’ll put your phone on silent and put it in the opposite corner of the room, while you fill your time with productive things like working on yourself, your business or meeting more women.

Kick the validation habit of expecting a text quickly. The slow burn is powerful, as most chicks are surrounded by beta orbiters hungry for their attention.

1) Figure Out What Texts Work, And Play To Your Strengths.

After trial and error, I now have a pretty simple pattern. If I meet a girl I say, “it’s…the sexy chef from (where we met)” If they’re into me, they’ll respond back enthusiastically and if not, I move on.

Then I chill back for a day or two, and begin the conversation with:

Me: “hey cutie (or sexy), hows your day goin”

Her: “blah blah.. you?”

Me: (something cool I did, usually involving cooking because I play to my strengths and chicks dig a guy who can cook)

Her: blah blah

Me: “let’s grab a drink sometime”

Her: (either a yes or a no, it’s just to see if she’s interested)

Me: “cool, lets hit up XYZ lounge they have the best cocktails in town, hows thurs at 9”

Her: (either a yes, no or maybe (which usually means no). If she counteroffers with another day, that’s a good sign. If she says, “maybe next week” that’s generally a terrible sign and she wants more validation as she’s demanding that you ask her out again if you want a shot with her. Wait a week, reinitiate the conversation and see what happens.)

I don’t think texting can be more stripped down.

Oh, and one more thing.

Be aware of shit tests.

I’ve seen this a lot, where a girl will respond with “I’m not a big drinker, but how bout dinner.”

First off, that’s arrogant and entitled that if someone asks you out for a free and delicious alcoholic beverage that you respond with “No, how about you spend 3x-4x as much so you can fill my belly.”

Plus, nobody feels sexy after eating plates of Italian or Chinese food.

Your response?

“water for u then, but XYZ has the best cocktails in town. how bout Thurs at 9”

In that response I teased her by saying she can only have water, and ignored her demand for dinner. Then I went right back into my offer, and spiced it up with promising delicious cocktails (and, to be honest, they ARE the best cocktails in town. Plus the head bartender is a close friend…and it’s walking distance to my apartment).

Her response will reveal where she stands with you.

In fact, the better I get at game, the more I’m learning how to filter girls out as quickly as possible.

She lives 45-60 minutes drive away? Rejected, as she’s geographically undesirable.

She’s 30 years old and still single? Nah, not worth jumping through all the hoops.

She has kids? Definitely not.

She’s a 7 but has a ton of attitude? Nope, plenty of better behaved girls who will respect my time.

Guys, what are your big issues when it comes to text? Drop a comment below and let’s help each other.

Sick and tired of texting hot girls and not getting a response? Quit wasting your valuable time and get the solution here.

Read More: The 5 Most Common Text Messages Girls Send (And How To Respond To Them)

14 Replies to “My Biggest Issue with Game: Texting”

  1. My dude im from ecuador third filled.with girls who try to pose as good girls and im.trying to stop that bullshit thinking ,.i.conaider.i.have good game im good.looking and kinda ripped but some.holes game , i read youbevery night looking and.ypu preach the truth brother


  2. For me text game naturally happens when you are focused on building lifestyle. If you aren’t forgetting about your phone from time to time you aren’t working hard enough.


    1. I agree with you, but I do find it hard in practice. I have my phone on for business and social reasons, so if a girl hits me back, I’ll be aware of it, whether I want to or not. I’ll still hit her back later, but it take some will power to not let her text float through my mind for a bit.

      Overall I find it most easy to just put a phone on silent, and have someone in the room to focus on, like a colleague during work hours or friend in the evening.


  3. This is spot on. I close differently being in a college town but same basic principal.

    Real important to just not give a fuck. Forget to answer.
    Answer semi sporadically.
    Ignore her lol and respond casually.

    Keep her make believe pedestal rocking so she is confused and intrigued. Every once in a while throw her a bone and validate her attraction to you.


  4. I agree 100% with this article. My style of closing is a little different since I’m dealing with college girls and their friends, but lack of investment is key.

    Don’t answer here and there. Ignore her emotion or lol. Keep the pedestal she pretends to be on wobbling, and every once in a whole throw her a bone to validate your awesomeness.


  5. There are 2 different kinds of text game. There are some guys who work for weeks after getting a number-close. After 6 weeks of ever more sexualized text-game they meet at a hotel without even having met on a date! I would consider those guys the masters of text game.

    But it truly depends on your style – I guess you and Roosh go for the minimal approach and try to convice the girl to meet ASAP. Krauser and others are sometimes doing elaborate text-games which excite the girl more and more and basically lubricate her well before the next meeting. With some girls that kind of long-term approach (2-6 weeks) can be quite effective.

    It can be learned, but I don’t think that this kind of deep-conversion-text-game is for everyone.


    1. Those other styles may work as well, but definitely not in LA, or major US cities. If you don’t setup a meetup ASAP, they’ll forget you in a week or less and you probably will too. For those who can spend that much time doing that, more power to them, but it’s simply a bad ROI for me.


      1. Yeah – times are chaning. IQs are dropping (5% per decade since 1990) and attention spans are falling. Still works in Western Europe to a degree and in Eastern Europe you can do wonders.

        Reminds me a bit of the old-school Game tactics that my grandfather used to employ writing romantic and then exciting letters to start the female hamster spinning. Worked extremely well.

        I think that text-game is a bit underrated, since the female mind is more excited by words. We should always remember that chick-porn comes in books and not in movies. But yes – I would not advocate learning more than the basic text-Game for most guys, since it has to be your strength from the onset and you have to be in the right country in order to have a meaningful effect. Plus it has to fit your style. I’ve used some elaborate text game in the past, but it becomes a pain in the ass with too many prospects.


  6. Solid principles, funnily enough I was out one night & got a girls number only to find out that she lives 1 hour & 40 mins away. The old me would’ve been desperate enough to run to her, God was I stupid. Now honestly couldn’t give a fuck replace with someone else rinse & repeat.


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