Elevate Your Life: What’s Holding You Back?

My alarm clock goes off screeching like a horn in a prison yard waking me up.

I hit the snooze button and roll over intent on squeezing a few more minutes of sleep out of the day.


The carrots and bell-peppers look at me from the back of the refrigerator begging me to juice them, but I choose to open a sugary energy drink instead.


I stare at my workout shoes planning on putting them on and going to the gym, but cannot seem to muster the discipline to put them on and get my ass out the door.


We all are aware of what we should be doing.

We know McDonald’s is shit food that will give us a heart attack, not working out will turn our bodies into jello and that sleeping the day away is a great formula for sliding into poverty, so why the hell do we do it?

There’s a multitude of possible reasons, but the main one I’ve seen prevalent is that our goal isn’t strong enough to take us to another level of discipline. 

A perfect example is when a actor is preparing for a role that requires him to get in shape. When you wave a multi-million dollar contract in his face and tell him he had better get in the best shape of his life or the part will be re-cast, you can guarantee that the actor will find the discipline to get in shape. His goal is strong enough to supersede his wants. His goal is motivating enough to cause him to be disciplined.

While it’s obviously easy to get motivated by a million dollar contract, what can you motivate yourself with?

People are either driven by reward or driven by fear of failure. For some, the reward of a great body is enough to get them out of bed and to the gym. For others, it’s the fear of getting fat that drives them.

What kind of person are you? Fear driven or reward driven. There’s no ‘right’ answer, but knowing what you respond to will better help you become disciplined.

Secondly, it’s important to analyze and see if your goal is motivating you enough. If it’s not, then you might need to change it or make it tougher to achieve. When a person is truly passionate about attaining a goal they will sacrifice and toil to achieve it.

This week as you are faced daily with the choice of being disciplined or not, look at the root of the struggle: is your goal strong enough?

If it’s not motivating you enough, then perhaps it’s time to reassess them and choose goals that make you excited about striving for them, not apathetic.

Thirdly, it’s key that you use motivation to get you started, but DISCIPLINE is what will cause you to actually attain results. You can be the most motivated person in the world, but if you don’t have discipline, then you won’t achieve anything.

Elliott Hulse (who was a guest on my podcast here) does a great job of breaking this point down in the video below.

Check out this video and here’s to a great week for us all!

When you’ve had enough, then you know what to do. Get it here.

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10 Replies to “Elevate Your Life: What’s Holding You Back?”

  1. Elliots advice about picking one thing and committing to it is very important for laying the groundwork for success. Ive never been a man with great discipline. Three months ago however, I committed to taking a cold shower every morning. I hate doing it but Ive forced myself to do it – every day. What I have noticed is that this one simple act has caused to be more focused and disciplined in other areas of my life. There is still progress to be made but the groundwork has been set.


  2. Hey Christian, I’ve been reading your articles for a few months now. I really enjoy all of you podcasts as well, I’ve listened to each one of them a time or two. You’re one of my favorite bloggers, out of 3. I’m curious to know if you’ve ever heard of GoodLookingLoser.com? If so, what are your thoughts? A lot of bloggers on the manosphere wouldn’t and don’t condone GLL. A lot of solidified bloggers here on the manosphere have a part of their website that supports other bloggers, but I can only think of 1 blog on here that endorses GLL. I’m interested to find out, if you had a list of blogs that you supported, if GLL would be on the list. If you don’t want to answer this I understand. Thanks again for all the knowledge and entertaining (also informing) podcasts. Cheers


    1. Yes, I’ve heard of GLL and I think he is good at what he does. I don’t have a blogroll because inevitably certain blogs would get left out and then people get offended. Add to that that I rarely read other blogs besides some style ones and it’s pointless for me to have a blogroll.


  3. My mind set holds me back sometimes.

    I can’t handle a women’s flakey behaviour. Girls constantly flake on me DESPITE the fact that I Get STRONG eye contact from many of these women and when I escalate with them, they are all for it. Then when I Get their number (because they aren’t DTF that night), they flake when we arrange a date. How do I deal with this? Girs flake on me despite being into my looks and its really fucking annoying


      1. Sometimes 5 minutes, sometimes half an hour. Sometimes an hour. Sometimes I’ll even make out with them and do other shit – but they still flake. They will respond to my texts and agree to meet up, but then they’ll just randomly stop replying and flake on dates. E.g. this last saturday, I Was talking with this girl for like 20 minutes, she kept telling me how she sees me everyone on campus and thinks I’m really cute – we kiss. After that, we text and agree to meet up on Monday. She eventually flakes and stops responding to my texts. Happens a lot. Is this just how women are – are they just really flakey in nature and they just got so many options that they forget about you or am I missing something?


      2. Girls have more options today then any girl of any generation. This just means your game needs to be that much sharper and regardless you will get flaked on. I got flaked on tonight. It happens. It’s the game. The more you get out of them in the initial encounter the more they have ‘invested’ in you and the greater odds they won’t flake. By that I mean, go for the ONS. Even then it’s no guarantee, but over time you’ll learn how to read girls interest levels and that will help you weed out flakes.


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