What Is Style?

“Style is the answer to everything.
A fresh way to approach a dull or dangerous thing.
To do a dull thing with style is preferable to doing a dangerous thing without it.
To do a dangerous thing with style is what I call art.” -Charles Bukowski

Here’s a few ramblings of my own regarding what style really is. While I’m not as eloquent as Bukowski, if you read these you’ll get an idea of what having style really means. It’s not just about knowing how to match a tie and shirt, or what a french double cuff is; it’s much more than that. It is you in it’s finest form.

Style isn’t merely the suit on your back, it’s how you bring life to the suit and cut a figure of masculinity when you enter a room.


Knowing good fashion is leaving your house looking like a million bucks. Having style is returning in the morning in the same clothes feeling like a million bucks.


Show me a man who always leaves his suit coat buttoned when sitting down and I’ll show you a gent with style.

clive dup 2 may08

Guys ask me “How do I become stylish?” and I say, “Every single man has his own unique style. The key is uncovering it and how do you do that? By stealing looks from stylish men. Eventually you’ll see what works best for you and you’ll steal a little of this and a little of that and then you’ll create your own style. Then men will steal from you and you’ll know you have style.”


A pocket square to a suit is an engine to a car. The car might look powerful, but the pocket square takes you from average to commanding. From a used car salesman to a CEO. From just another 9-5 cat rushing to catch the subway to the guy in the backseat of a chauffeured Rolls Royce.

THE THOMAS CROWN AFFAIR - NormanJewison - Steve McQueen, 1968

The biggest myth is that you’re either born with style or you’re not. Style can be learned, but you have to lose your ego and ask for help. Or do it like I did. I’d go into the library and read GQ and Esquire until I got a semblance of an idea. Then I went into thrift shops found the closest pieces I could find to the ads and got em tailored for a few bucks more and learned how to wear a suit, not let the suit wear me. Where there is a will, there is a fucking way.


When guys ask “Why would I wear a suit?” I say, “Dress for success. It’s that simple. If it’s good enough for Jay-Z to ‘graduate’ to, then ditch the baggy jeans and join the men’s club. It’s no mistake that Jay went from hanging out with fellow rappers to hanging with the President. Maturity isn’t just about your attitude and outlook, it’s also what you display for the public to judge you on. If you think people don’t judge you based on how you’re dressed, then get your head out of the sand. First impressions really are everything.”


What is your favorite quote on style?

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12 Replies to “What Is Style?”

  1. ‘There are no ugly women, only lazy women.’ ~C. Chanel. I would say the same applies to men running game as well.


  2. “Style and taste are for men. Fashion is for women.” – IDK who came up with this, but it was somewhere on G Manifesto’s blog (may his soul RIP)


  3. You say “Show me a man who always leaves his suit coat buttoned when sitting down and I’ll show you a gent with style.”
    I thought a single-breasted jacket should be unbuttoned while sitting. Why do you say to leave it buttoned?


    1. “Keep your jacket buttoned. Always. It’s just really flattering—it will take pounds off you.” -Tom Ford.

      He’s never steered me wrong fashion wise yet.

      It also maintains a V-shape of your frame when you sit, making your shoulders appear wider and stomach smaller.


    2. Leaving it unbuttoned releases the tension on the button making it last longer.

      It benefits fashion designers if your suit doesn’t last forever, you’ll buy a new one to keep up with the continuously changing fashion trends.

      Another way to look slimmer without causing wear and tear on the button is removing the jacket when you sit (certain situations demand you have your jacket on no matter what, but it’s rare these days). Less layers makes you appear thinner assuming you don’t make the common American mistake of having a baggy trash bag dress shirt.


      1. If there is tension on the button when you are sitting then your jacket is too small or you are too fat, plain and simple. Also if you dress classic you don’t have to worry about fashion trends because your wardrobe will be timeless.


  4. couple of key points I hope all the gents pick up on: “I’d go into the library….” and “Then I went into thrift shops”. Having style doesn’t have to break the bank. If you’re short on paper stacks don’t be shy/embarrassed by going to Goodwill/thrift shops.


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