Everyone wants the good life. Sippin’ on Dom, yacht parties with French models, eating Caviar like it’s Cap’n Crunch and being able to drop a cool stack on a new pair of Ferragamo shoes like slippin’ a dollar in the coke machine, but the reality is, most people won’t put in the work it takes to get there.
Success does not come easy. At all. If you were lucky enough, and I do say lucky, to get a head-start on life with an inheritance or family cash, then more power to you, but for the cats such as myself born into regular blue-collar homes, we had to scratch and claw our way up to get where we’re at. If you’re not where you want to be financially, or even in life in general, then pay close attention because in this article I am going to reveal the secret to attaining the good life. You might not like it (because it requires a choice). It might not make you feel good, but it’s reality and the truth will set you free.
Every since I can remember, I’ve been an impatient man. When I was a child I wanted to be 16, because then I could get a driver’s license and be more independent. When I was 16, I wanted to be 18 so I could be a ‘real adult’. When I was 18, I wanted to be 21, so I could drink legally. When I turned 26, was when I realized life flies by and I no longer was eagerly anticipating a new birthday milestone. In fact, I wanted life to slow the fuck down.
The problem with life in the fast lane, is that it truly goes fast as fuck.
Along with the impatient nature I once had, I also had a problem with living in the moment too much. I strongly believe in living in the moment, but planning for the future now, but with youth comes some folly. I literally lived as though I might die any given day, so I lived life full-tilt ahead with my foot on the proverbial gas pedal of life. I had incredible adventures. I made some great memories. I lived more life in a short span of time, then most men do in an entire lifetime. What I didn’t realize, is that I was missing one key component in my life: delayed gratification.
Delayed gratification is the #1 key to achieving success and being able to live the good life. In order for you to get great at something, you must sacrifice something else. In order for you to become accomplished in one area, you must spend less time in another. This very real sacrifice is not attractive to people for obvious reasons. Who wants to skip those delicious cookies your main chick cooks and juice some carrots instead, so you can reach your goal of a 6-pack? Instead of lounging around on a Sunday night watching Netflix, who would rather spend their evening planning out their week? It’s human nature to choose the path of least resistance. The problem is that the path of least resistance is the fast-track to mediocrity.
Thankfully, I was able to meet a mentor early on in my 20’s through the power of networking, who showed me the gift of delayed gratification. As I started to implement his techniques into my life, I saw the results of focusing on what was really important: self-investment. It’s much easier to pursue success, once you’ve had a taste. I remember the moment where it clicked for me. I was helping my mentor on a side project he was developing (he’s currently a founder of a multi-million dollar popular website, is worth a few hundred million and self-made as well), and we were busting ass all week. When Saturday rolled around, I was ready to wrap up and get my party on. “Partying? Not now. We party when the project is complete and I’ll show you real partying”.
My mentor checked me on the spot.
I went for a smoke and silently was a little pissed. I had busted ass working non-stop on this project and I felt that I ‘needed’ a drink and to get laid. I was wrong. I swallowed my pride, listened to him and we continued to work. When the project was complete, he did indeed show me what partying was really like and I’ll give a shout-out to the strippers and suite in South Beach which made for one helluva project wrap party. What my mentor understood was delayed gratification. He knew that this specific project was a million times more important than partying on a random Saturday night. Once that clicked, it literally changed my life.
Do I still like to party? Hell yea. Do I still love meeting sexy girls and getting laid? Of course. Do I sometimes forfeit those opportunities to work on a project. Yes I do. It wasn’t easy changing my patterns of living to incorporate using delayed gratification to get me where I really wanted to be, but it was well worth it.
Successful people have a propensity to put off pleasure now, in order to achieve success.
The two most important aspects of delayed gratification are the following:
1. Delaying gratification to self-educate myself. Self-education is the most powerful tool available to mankind today. You can open Google, type in what you’re looking for and literally learn how to do it. Taking the time every week to self-educate yourself on an important topic that makes you a better man, gets you ahead in life quicker and will help you avoid mistakes, is powerful and extremely effective.
2. Delaying gratification on flash for substance. There was a day when buying a new pair of Jordans was more important to me than learning a new skill which could help me be a better business man. What waste! If you find yourself investing in everything but what really matters, which is you and your development into becoming the best man you can be, then check yourself. What is really important right now? It’s not just money either. It’s also about your time. If you’re serious about becoming great with women, then maybe you need to rearrange your priorities to have the time to invest in learning this skill. Maybe you’re awkward socially and instead of forcing yourself out of your comfort zone, you choose to remain in a hermit like existence which leads to depression.
Delaying gratification isn’t easy. It’s hard. It can be very hard depending on your personality type, but it is possible to change. I know because as I mentioned, I lived in the moment to the point where I would have had no future if I didn’t get myself in check. Invest in yourself. Invest in self-education and invest in learning skills that won’t be out of style in 6 months. Invest in becoming the man you want to be and you will be on your way to living the good life.
Here’s to a kickass Monday and your tremendous success in life.
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