How To Have The Best Sex Of Your Life

I’ve had a lot of sex. Some good, some bad and some mind-blowing.

I’ve had sex with 350+ girls in my life (I’m 30). I don’t say this to brag, I say this to preface this comprehensive guide with actual experience. When you’ve had sex with hundreds of women you start to figure out what works and what doesn’t.

Here is the most comprehensive free guide to having great sex on the web. Hell, period.

Take your time with this post, because it’s a monster of a motherfuckin’ post and enjoy using these tips this weekend.

The Mindset

Great sex starts before you slip off her bra, before you insert your cock into her vagina and actually starts before you even approach her. That’s because great sex starts with YOUR mindset.

If you think poorly about yourself, then you will radiate this vibe in a 30 foot radius to every girl (or guy) you encounter on a night out. Developing a proper mindset is absolutely essential and I will go into this in more detail in the near future, but for now, you have got to get a grip on your mindset.

If you think you’re worthless, you will live a worthless life.

If you think that you’re inadequate for pretty girls, then you will only date and have sex with girls who are unattractive to you.

If you are solely concentrated on your cock size (and any insecurities that you might have) you will never be able to truly have great sex, because you will be in your MIND, instead of the MOMENT. Another note regarding this: with the amount of sexual partners that girls have nowadays you are not her biggest and you are not her smallest, but it doesn’t matter because the actual EXPERIENCE she has when with you is what keeps her coming back. Focus on what you CAN control and you will be at peace with this.

There are two mindsets that you must adopt to gather the reins of your mind and take control:

1. I will rock her world

2. Sex with me is a privilege

These two thoughts coincide to create a mindset of sexual confidence. Through actual application (sex) you will develop prowess. The more practice you put in, the better you will get.

If you’re a virgin reading this and you feel scared, then allow me to reach through the screen and virtually bitch slap you. Everyone was a virgin at some point and before I fucked hundreds of girls, I obviously was a virgin as well. It’s okay to feel nervous, but the only way to alleviate these feelings is to learn game and have sex.

The best way to adopt these two thoughts and create a new mindset is simply to think them and say them out-loud repeatedly everyday.

The second part is actually putting them into use. You can sit and stare at the wall everyday muttering these phrases and never approach girls and you will remain sexless. Combine thinking and saying these statements with conviction AND approaching girls, going on dates and sexually escalating and you will see the difference.

The Approach

In this section, I’m not covering the actual approach, but instead the main aspects that will get the sexual energy flowing before you even actually have sex with her.

Have you ever heard a girl say, “Such and such is soooo sexy!” (and the guy is not physically attractive). That’s because he exudes sexuality.

Looks and sexiness are too different things.

While a person can be physically attractive, they can also have the sexual energy of a rock. If you have looks and sexual energy then you’re golden, but if you’re not the best looking guy, you can still become sexy by channeling sex into your vibe, swagger and style. This post isn’t about style, but the sharper you dress, the higher you amp up your perceived sexual value.

Simple example is this:

Joe Blow walks into the club wearing a wrinkled button down, jeans that are tattered at the cuffs and a hemp necklace. Yes, Joe is still stuck in the fucking 90’s. Girls instantly turn their back on him and whisper “What a creep!” to their friends.


Joe Blow reads this blog, applies the vast knowledge, improves his life and returns to the club. Now he is Joe Smooth. He walks into the club rocking a tailored suit and a modern haircut, but most importantly, his BODY LANGUAGE is confident and screams alpha male. His physical movements are measured and deliberate.

He scans the room slowly like a lion surveying his prey for a late night meal. He utilizes strong eye contact to establish himself as someone not to fuck with (to other males) and as a proper sexual option to the females. Girls instantly start eye-fucking him and nervously giggling to their friends, “Who’s THAT sexy guy in the suit??”


Now which version of Joe is more apt to get laid? 

I’ve touched on this before, but the key to kick-starting your sexual energy during an approach is to actually imagine undressing her as you speak to her.

She will feel this. Your sexual energy will exude.

You’re not doing this in a leering manner, but instead ‘sending’ your words with sexual intent even if the actual words are not sexual in nature.

Here’s an example:

You’re talking with a girl and she comments on your pocket square.

Girl: “I love your pocket square. I wish more guys would dress up”

You: “It’s difficult for boys to be men”

What you’re saying is not sexual in nature, but here’s what you’re THINKING when you’re saying this: I’m going to wrap your legs around my body and give you such an intense orgasm your body shakes. 

At the same time that you’re THINKING this, you actually IMAGINE the two of you naked doing this. Your thoughts will come through in your eyes, thus making an ‘innocent’ statement (“It’s difficult for boys to be men”) sexualized in a dominating manner which will turn her on.

This is exactly how you can be posted up at a club and see a playboy approach a girl, talk to her for a couple of minutes and then walk out holding her hand. It’s that powerful.

Now, note that this takes practice. The more you do it, the more seamless it will become. Start practicing now.

The Physical

Now for the fun part, the actual sex. There are 5 main components to the actual physical aspect of having great sex and here they are:

#5. Confidence

Sure, it might be hard to be confident if you’re not sexually experienced, but the very simple way to navigate around this obstacle is this:

1. She’s naked with you. She is attracted enough to you to have gotten naked and open up her most intimate body part to you. That tells you everything.

2. Be in the moment. I will write more about this later in the article, but you really have to let go of wondering if you’re the best she’s had, wondering if she’ll like the sex enough to see you again, and casting off the pressure of performing. It’s easy as guys to get caught up in wanting to be her best sexual partner, but brother let me tell you, that is a burden that is one that I frequently say “Fuck you” to. The best way you can ‘perform’ is to ravish her with passion, dominance and confidence.

#4. Lose Yourself In The Moment

You can’t have great sex when your mind is wandering about everything but what you’re actually doing. It’s similar to how a girl can’t have an orgasm if she’s in her mind and isn’t relaxed.

The more relaxed you are, the more she will be.

The more you take her in, her scent, her body and her mind, then she will relax and melt.

The real question is, if you find yourself thinking about other shit while you’re having sex with her, then you obviously are not attracted to her enough. I can tell you that the attraction level makes a difference.

I’ve had sex with some girls, where the movie playing on the TV is more interesting than her.

I’ve also had sex with girls where I could have died inside them and been happy because their beauty was so staggering to me.

Let go, relax and just be.

#3. Blowing Her Mind

While I’ve covered this in this article and this one as well, here are some more tips for how to do this.

-Create sexual tension. I touched on this as well here, but the easy way to think about this is as Push-Pull.

The push would be you taking her shirt off.

The pull would be not taking her bra off immediately.

99.9% of guys will take the girls bra off first and then go to town sucking on her breasts, but the G way to handle this is to lightly breathe on her breasts (while her bra is still on) and remove her panties BEFORE taking her bra off. Hell, you can even start to fuck her while she’s wearing her bra, then take it off after a couple of minutes.

-Another way to do this, is don’t be predictable. Sex in the kitchen? Sure. Sex in the bathroom? Of course. Don’t be the guy who always defaults to having to fuck on the bed. It’s lame. Unpredictability is paramount to making it ‘hot’ and ‘heavy’.

-Get in her mind. Here’s an example of how this works:

You have her sitting on your kitchen counter facing you with her legs open and you’re inside her. Pause your thrusting and gently trace her lips with your finger, while staring into her eyes, then say something like this:

“You’re sexy as hell” (then kiss her passionately)

Read closely, because I’m about to drop a knowledge ‘bomb’: Great sex comes from creating an Emotional Bubble.

Anybody can have sex, but when you combine the physical act of sex with connecting to her emotionally through what you say (and what you don’t say), then you have sexual fireworks. There’s a reason why women love the book 50 Shades of Grey which is a damn BOOK. i.e. it’s words, not pictures. Learn to turn a girl on verbally and she will be putty in your hands.

#2.The Pursuit of Pleasure

Your pleasure. If you’re focused on trying to make her orgasm for hours you’ll miss the point. A woman likes to have orgasms sure, but here’s the deal: most women don’t even have orgasms through actual penetration, so you’re more than likely wasting your time.

“Only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse.” (Source)

Instead, focus on your pleasure and ‘using’ her for your pleasure. You will find that she will be more into that then you down on your knees eating her out for 30 minutes to no avail.

Now this doesn’t mean you can’t try to make her cum, but keep it in perspective.

A feminine woman who is biologically attracted to an alpha male, will get great pleasure out of PROVIDING him pleasure.

For you experienced playboys out there, ever notice how a girl will get on her knees to give you head and the look in her eyes is pure pleasure? Now maybe she loves gobbling on cocks, but what she really is feeling, is pleasure from providing you pleasure and being ‘slutty’ for you. This is a fucking fact. Next time a girl gives you head look into her eyes and tell me you don’t see it.

#1. Fucking Like It’s Your Last Time Ever

If I told you that the next time you have sex, you’ll be forced into celibacy forever, I’ll bet you would ravage her with passion and pleasure for the both of you.

Next time you’re having sex (the imagination is very powerful), imagine it’s the last time you will ever have sex again. I can guarantee that you will enjoy the moment and it will be incredible sex. And not to be morbid, but we’re not guaranteed tomorrow and it very well could be.

Have a great weekend, get on my VIP List for free gifts and updates on exciting news before anyone else gets it (if you haven’t already) and I’ll have a new post on Monday. Cheers gentlemen.

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Read More: 6 Tips For Game Newbies

  One thought on “How To Have The Best Sex Of Your Life

  1. anant
    03/26/2015 at 10:00 pm

    thanx for rembering the points


  2. K
    01/31/2015 at 2:20 am

    Hey Christian,

    I recently stumbled upon your site and would like to thank you for these highly informative posts. They have started to give me the courage to get out there and start approaching women and building my confidence.

    However I have a small mental block, i’m not sure how to get past it and was hoping you could give me some insight as to how i could get over it. You see, I’m 20 years old, going on to 21 now and i’m still a virgin. I haven’t even kissed a woman yet, which is embarrassing to say the least. I missed out on all the young sex, young love, teenage sex, high-school life and i don’t know how to get past the fact that i’ll never experience these things because the time has passed. Meanwhile, most of the people i know started game when they were in their early teens and so they got these experiences.

    How does one stop comparing themselves and stop thinking about all that regret and the opportunities missed?

    Hope to hear from you soon.


  3. Drogba
    01/30/2015 at 7:26 pm


    One thing I am concerned about is how many in the game ‘sphere, Heartiste in particular, say that Game cannot help a man if he comes from an ethnic background that is generally less desired (which is to say, non-white guys should not try to game white women).

    I always thought that if a man was, say, Asian, that is just one disadvantage that can be minimized with Game like height, a bad face, low income, etc. could. But there seems to be more and more discussion about how Game will not help certain men get certain women, even if the women are not out his league by any metric other than race.

    There are always anecdotes, of course, but we are talking about averages.

    I think I have lost respect for Heartiste as a Game commenter, since he also condemns white women for ‘mudsharking’, which is incompatible with the notion that Game helps any man do better than he was doing before.


    • 01/30/2015 at 8:25 pm

      One of the greatest players I know is Indian (from India). He’s in his early 40’s and dates hot white girls in their early 20’s constantly. He’s not the best looking guy, but does have a good lifestyle, although he doesn’t spoil them, he just has great game.

      Here’s the deal: it’s more popular now than ever for white girls to date ethnic guys (i.e. any non-white males).

      Black guys with game are cleaning up right now.

      Asian guys with game are cleaning up right now.

      On and on.

      While there are always certain girls who only like certain types of guys, there are ALWAYS some white girls and girls in general who will date/fuck minorities. I see it with my own two eyes constantly. Perhaps this is due to living in a major city and it might be different in a small town, that I don’t know, but in LA, Vegas, Miami, Chicago and NYC, I see minority men dating very attractive white girls all the time.

      It’s not a race issue: it’s a game issue. Blaming one’s race is an excuse to be average. Sure a guy might have to work a little harder to prove he’s not a stereotypical type of a certain niche, but it’s no different than two different guys who are millionaires. One inherited his millions and the other hustled his way to millions, but they are both millionaires.

      Lastly, unless a guy has model good looks, then he won’t be attractive to every girl. That’s life. Work with what you have. Make yourself into the best man YOU can be, and when the dust settles you’ll be just fine.

      Ignore the naysayers and do you.


    • King
      02/01/2015 at 5:23 am


      The authors that neg on interracial dating and do not think game works for minorities (Heartiste included. Good writer, but some weak opinions and soft mindset on the interracial stuff) lose crediibility in my eyes because they are essentially putting it on a pedestal to think any woman would not want any kind of guy, which clearly does not align with their rhetoric on gender dynamics or the confidence they seem to portray in their online profiles.

      You have to remember, the “average person” is not a very good human being, period. Just like you would not want to wife up the average female, the average male is a great catch (alpha) either, hence the sphere and sites like this–to help improve yourself as a man. If you are a confident man, who has your shit together, and you can talk/banter to women, you can get damn near whoever you want.

      You will know when you have internalized “game” or some other things passed in the sphere once you no longer think about “who is out of my league, who is out of his league, or certain races/guy can’t get with certain women.” You will literally stop thinking about other men and their conquests and stop questioning your own abilities.

      As Christian stated, “Ignore the naysayers and do you.”


  4. 01/30/2015 at 4:21 pm

    Great article. I’d like to share that what Christian is saying about wearing suits is true. Don’t believe? Try going somewhere where people don’t usually wear suits like a local bar and own the fact that you’re wearing a suit. You will be dressed better than everyone and you may feel like it’s a bit much. Again, own that shit and see the response. Your charisma points will shoot through the roof.

    Also, I remember witnessing an argument take place between a couple of friends one time, where one of them was wondering how women could enjoy blowjobs. My other friend was like dude, they love it because they like pleasing their man. The other kid was like that’s impossible. If you don’t believe that women derive pleasure from pleasing you, you won’t get pleased, it’s that simple.

    Rock on.


    • Arctangent
      01/30/2015 at 9:38 pm

      Once I started visiting McQueen’s site a year ago, I paid attention to the reactions I got while dressing a certain way. The eye-fucking while wearing a suit is genuine.
      Great post, McQueen. Useful information with concise wording.



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