The True Measure Of Man

A man’s real strength is defined when things aren’t going well, not when they are.

It’s easy to be on-point, be happy and positive when everything is running along smoothly in every aspect of a man’s life, but when shit hits the fan, can a man still be these things?

When the bills pile up and you dread opening your mailbox because of the overdue notices, can you still be composed emotionally?

When life continually kicks you in the balls, can you find the strength deep down inside to persevere through the hard times?

When you have no one and I mean no one to have your back and lend a helping hand, can you still be a man in demand and not lose your cool?

When life doesn’t just hand you lemons, but instead it’s water laced with arsenic, can you choke that shit down and still come out triumphant?

The true measure of a man is when everything is going wrong and he keeps his emotions in check and still finds a way to not only survive, but to thrive.

If you’re going through a rough time, then I hope this blog post will encourage you. If you’re experiencing real pain in your life and you feel as though no one could possibly understand, know that I do understand and can relate.

Just because I don’t dwell on tragic life events, doesn’t mean that I don’t still have my balls kicked by life too. But instead of dwelling on the problem, I choose to dwell on the solutions. 

It’s easy to get despondent when there literally seems like no way out from a bad situation, but it is in the fire that our true characters are formed.

It is in the gutter that we form a rock solid resolve and steadfast Frame for grabbing life by the throat and not letting go until we kick its ass and make it our bitch.

This blog is not a rah-rah post intended to make you feel good, warm and fuzzy and forget about your problems. Instead, I’m writing it to help you gather your wits and courage and face your problems. Running from our problems will never solve them. Instead, being real men and facing them head-on and solving them is where we will find real peace.

As men we are designed to handle stress, overcome obstacles and accomplish great feats in order to enhance our fellow man’s life.

Let us be encouraged knowing that we do have what it takes to overcome obstacles in our way, we do have the strength deep down inside (it might take some digging!) and we can overcome whatever life throws at us, because no matter what, we are still men. Men are designed to kick ass in this life and so we shall.

In closing, regardless if you’re an atheist or not, I have always found value and encouragement in this particular Bible verse:

“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.” James 1:12

This week, take courage in knowing that just in you being a man alone, you have what it takes to get through whatever rough time you might be experiencing. You were designed to build, fight and overcome. Let’s take charge this week gentlemen. I challenge you to do so.


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6 Replies to “The True Measure Of Man”

  1. Long time lurker – this post got me to jump in – for this is the single best post I’ve read of yours. Yes, yes, yes – a thousand times yes. Doesn’t matter if the “issues” are women or money or whatever – how you respond, how you seize the opportunity given – that’s what matters – and this is where true personal growth is found.

    Thanks for a sterling read.


  2. This was a great encouragement. This winter has dragged on long and hard, after an especially grueling fall. Money is tight, the business is struggling. Yet despite that Ive made a point of not bitching or whining . Instead I work everyday to do something proactive towards my goal of getting me out of this ditch. When I really want to talk about the issues of my heart I take it up with God through prayer. Occasionally I have avery tight buddy who I mention things to. I never talk about my feelings to my wife -ever. I might mention something I plan on doing – but its only in a matter of fact manner.
    Thanks for this great write up


  3. Glad you’re familiar with the Bible, McQueen. You probably think I’m a judgemental jerk, but I do pray for you (from genuine goodwill, not from a high horse) that you’ll turn to the Lord and stop being a womaniser. I know marriage in the West has been undermined for decades now but it’s still the only way to play!


  4. Great pot McQueen-I dig these posts even more than the game posts(which are pretty boss as well). I’ve always thought a true test of anyone’s character is how they handle a stressful situation. You see the real person pretty fast when the chips are down. I honestly don’t even consider getting into an LTR with a woman until I see how she handles herself in a mini crisis-they tend to perform poorly I’ve noticed.


  5. One of my fav Rocky quotes of all time: “Life ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward….that’s how winning is done.” Adversity truly makes the man. That’s why we respect men of action like Navy SEALS so much, because they’ve been through hell and back. Embracing the furnace of life and its struggles because that stuff is character building. Great post CMQ.


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