First off, this is not a race post or a troll post. This is merely an observation that I have noticed and am sharing my thoughts to you gents. While some of you may get offended, that is not my intention. I implore you to suspend your personal feelings for a few moments, read the article with an open mind and perhaps you can take away some insight that will improve your game regardless of your skin color.
Secondly, this is not a PC friendly post to make white men feel guilty for being white. I don’t care what your skin color is, this blog is for EVERY man regardless of skin color. If you are focused on becoming the best man you can be, then you are welcome here. If you are asian, be proud of being asian. If you are Indian, be proud of being Indian. If you are black, be proud of being black. If you are white, be proud of being white. Be proud of your heritage.
My observations are based on having black friends, Indian friends, Asian friends and every other type of race friends possible. I only base friendship off of loyalty. If you are loyal, then you are a friend of mine.
This observation started on Labor Day Weekend of 2014. I was at Marquee Nightclub in Las Vegas at the tail end of that weekend, I believe it was a Monday night, with another good friend of mine from the east coast. He’s a jacked as fuck white guy of average height, good style and a legit real player.
We were standing by the bar close to the outside area and the club was popping the fuck off. After a weekend of partying and hosting a client, I was in a ‘zen’ like mood. Maybe you know the feeling. You’ve partied about as much as your body can handle and you’re just out because your flight doesn’t leave until the next day, but you have just enough energy to chase tail for a few more hours.
My buddy and I are standing beside the bar like zombies, observing the crowd, when my buddy makes an observation: every black guy in the immediate area has style and is with a hot girl. These are not guys at tables, so the default of being at a table and having that DHV was not present. He mentions this to me. I notice it too. I then take a look at the white guys around us. They are acting like idiots. They are dressed badly. They are acting thirsty. One in particular had potential, but was literally jumping up and down like an idiot waving a foam light saber. My buddy and I were literally the only two white (albeit tan) guys in the vicinity who were dressed to kill and had swagger. Why is this?
It took me months of observing in nightclub environments to nail down the specifics as to why this is and here are 4 of the main reasons that I believe play a part in this belief of mine.
#4. Black Guys Tend To Be Hustlers
I’m not talking about hustlers in the sense of drug dealers, but in the sense that many black guys I meet and have seen out are on the fucking ball. By that I mean, they are working the room looking to meet movers and shakers and are grabbing at the opportunities that were not always available to them in the past. The hustler mindset is attractive to women because it is indicative of being a man who is going somewhere. You might not be there yet, but you are taking action steps to get there. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: women want to be with men who are focused on their goals of getting ahead in life. If you’re a slacker, no matter how good-looking you are, you will find it’s harder to KEEP a girl if you’re a slacker.
Now this does NOT mean that every other race out there isn’t hustling too. I’ve met hustlers of every skin color, but I’m saying the obvious trend that I’m seeing is that black males are hustling their ass off. Obviously there are slackers of every race, but I’m talking about in the social circles of people who are doing something with their lives in general.
#3. Black Guys Style Has Become Increasingly Better
Excluding the gangster rap style, I’m noticing that black males have stepped it the fuck up in the style department. It’s very common for me to only be ‘competing’ in the style department on any given night out, with black guys suited to the nines. I’m not talking about them just rocking a blazer either: I’m talking about dressed straight out of GQ which yes, is a form of ‘normal’ peacocking and works extremely well.
The reality is, this is an aspect of EVERY man’s game, regardless of skin color, that you can improve. If you want to be successful, dress successful.
#2. Black Guys Have Swagger
While the specifics of this are hard to pin down, I have narrowed it down to a few key points that I believe play a part in this:
-Starting with nothing forces one to either fold, or grow. The growth process of pain and turmoil creates a certain ‘coolness’ that cannot be bought, or taught. One must grow through this on their own. It’s no secret that many black males have had to grow up without fathers and on the ‘wrong side of the tracks’. This forces a man to either hustle his way out of the situation, or stay in the situation. The black men I have met who have hustled their way out, have had this swagger. I have also met black men who stayed in their current situation (which was not conducive to a good life) and the swagger was not present, so I chalk this up to being a part of the result of the process that one goes through in getting out of a bad situation. You will also notice this inevitable swagger in a man, regardless of skin color, who has overcome extreme defying odds to get where they have gotten.
-Having to constantly prove yourself will force you to work even harder. The reality is if you’re walking down the street at night and a black male is walking towards you, you will feel more nervous than if it was a white male. Let’s keep it very real. Regardless of why this is, if you’re a young black male working hard to overcome a stereotype, you will be forced to work even harder to create an image of success and coolness. When faced with this choice, many young black guys will work even harder to become something, thus causing their swagger to increase.
-Lastly on this point, I’ve noticed from Day 1 of getting into Game, that black WOMEN have a thing for me. I know when I see a black girl, my odds of charming her are off the charts. They simply like my direct style (more on this next point), my swagger and sense of style. I’ve even had many of them say, “You have the swagger of a cool black guy”. I chalk this up to the aforementioned points, because even though I’m white, I’ve had to ‘hustle’ my way out of being broke, have developed swagger and style and use a direct approach style of game that leads me into point #1.
#1. Black Guys Tend To Use Direct Game
Show me two equal in looks guys: one white and one black, with both having good style and my money will be on the black guy to pick up a girl quicker. Is this the white guy’s fault? No. It’s merely a game observation that black males tend to go very direct when gaming using a combination of charm and aggressiveness that works extremely well.
Most of my game and what I teach is very similar to this and in fact, most of my Deep Conversion Game is essentially a toned down version of old school pimp game. If you can find a retired pimp to mentor you, your game will skyrocket because many of the pimp methods were repackaged by the PUA movement and sold in a more mainstream user-friendly manner.
Being direct is rewarded when it is done in a manner that is direct NOT out of thirst, but out of confidence. I have observed this over and over the last few months when I’m at a club. I’ll be posted up at a promoter friend’s table and will observe the club. I’ll see white guys (and by white guys I mean any non-black guys) approaching with ridiculous ‘pickup’ lines, offers to buy drinks etc and then I’ll notice a smoothly dressed black cat walk up to a girl in a cool and confident manner and start talking to her like he’s known her his whole life.
Once again, you’ll notice that every point I’ve made is something that you can utilize regardless of your skin color.
This post is not to start a race war among readers. We are all grown ass men who can read without bias and learn from each other. A man can learn something, if only one thing, from every man. To be arrogant and believe that you can learn nothing from someone is to impede your personal growth into becoming the best man you can be.
Everything I’ve written are actual steps that every man can take, regardless of his skin color, that will improve his game.
I’m curious as to your thoughts on this piece. What do you think? Do black guys ‘naturally’ have better game than white guys?
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