So The Guy Had A Horse C*ck, So What?

It’s a new month gentlemen and that marks a new Alpha Male of The Month. For March, I’ve chosen legendary playboy Porfirio Rubirosa.

While the legend of his horse cock overshadows much of his game, in this article I’d like to break down his bio intertwined with actual game tactics at work in his life.


*The following excerpts (besides the bold font, which is my analysis) is an excerpt from this source.

Porfirio Rubirosa Ariza (January 22, 1909 – July 5, 1965) was a Dominican diplomat, race-car driver, and polo player. He was an adherent of the dictator Rafael Trujillo, and was also rumored to be a political assassin under his regime. Rubirosa made his mark as an international playboy, for his jet setting lifestyle, and his legendary sexual prowess with women. Among his spouses were two of the richest women in the world.

I’ll just say it right now: many Dominican cats have a flair for seduction. Haven’t put my finger on it yet, but any of you gents who are Dominican or have visited can maybe shed some light on this in the comments. Rubirosa is an interesting playboy because he was not born into wealth. Many of the legendary playboys were born into extreme wealth and to be honest, that’s not impressive to me. January’s Alpha Male of The Month Errol Flynn, was not born into wealth either and to me that’s interesting. How does one build this lifestyle without being born with the resources. While we understand that being a playboy is about designing the life that YOU want, there are certain aspects of a playboy lifestyle that can be enhanced through money.


In 1931, Rubirosa met Rafael Trujillo at a country club. The “Benefactor” asked to see him the next morning, and made him a lieutenant of his Presidential Guard. Their relationship lasted throughout their lives, went up and down, mostly close, but not without episodes of danger for Rubirosa, and defined his professional career when he became a diplomat of the Dominican Republic in 1936.

In this role, he was sent to embassies first at Berlin (during the 1936 Olympic Games) and soon to Paris where he spent most of his time; he also served at the embassies at Vichy, Buenos Aires, Rome, Havana (witnessing the Cuban Revolution), and Brussels. He was a frequent visitor to New York, Washington, Florida, and California. “Rubi”, who defined himself a Trujillista, moved freely among the rich and famous, made the connections, and kept the secrets. At times, when his escapades stirred up too much notoriety, Trujillo would dismiss him – as from his post in Paris in 1953 – or move him to another place. Trujillo recognized what an asset Rubirosa was for his regime, remarking: “He is good at his job, because women like him and he is a wonderful liar.”

Rubirosa met Trujillo at a country club. Shocking. Remember when I told you guys about the importance about building your own Rat Pack and moving in circles of influence? This is key. Rubirosa knew how to work a room and build connections, there is no doubt about it. I don’t care how many degrees a guy has, or how great his GPA is, if he does not understand the importance of developing great social skills, then he is handicapping his potential. Almost every single business deal, or opportunity afforded me was through moving in the right circles, meeting the right people and making ‘miracles’ happen. Get plugged in. It will pay off for you a million times over. 

After Trujillo’s assassination on May 30, 1961, Rubirosa supported his son as successor and attempted to persuade John F. Kennedy to help his government. However, when Ramfis Trujillo and his family fled the Dominican Republic, Rubirosa’s career came to an end. On January 2, 1962 the Council of State removed him from his unique appointment as “Inspector of Embassies”. After he lost his diplomatic immunity, he was questioned by the New York District Attorney concerning the disappearance of Trujillo opponents Sergio Bencosme in 1935 and Jesus Galíndez in 1956, but was never charged.

Rubirosa was talking with JFK. Although he got turned down, wound up losing his posh position and even facing the threat of prosecution, he pushed through. Have you gents noticed a theme with all of these alpha males I’ve featured so far? At one point in time, they all faced circumstances where life grabbed them by the balls and punched their teeth in, but they pushed through. It is essential to develop tenacity in your life so that you can face the inevitable trials you will encounter as a man and still come out of them okay.


Rubirosa was linked romantically to Dolores del Río, Eartha Kitt, Marilyn Monroe, Ava Gardner, Rita Hayworth, Soraya Esfandiary, Peggy Hopkins Joyce, Joan Crawford, Veronica Lake, Kim Novak, Judy Garland, and Eva Peron. He dallied with his ex-wife Flor de Oro Trujillo Ledesma during his marriage to Doris Duke, and with Zsa Zsa Gabor during his marriage to Barbara Hutton. He was named a co-respondent in at least two divorces, the wives charging adultery in each case.

Rubirosa was married five times, but never had any children. His wives were:

Flor de Oro Trujillo, Rafael Trujillo’s daughter, December 3, 1932–38
Danielle Darrieux, French actress, September 18, 1942 – May 21, 1947
Doris Duke, American heiress, September 1, 1947 – October 1948; with marital gifts and final settlement he received an alimony ($25,000 per year until remarriage), a fishing fleet off Africa, several sports cars, a converted B-25 bomber (La Ganza), and a 17th Century house at Rue de Bellechasse, Paris.
Barbara Hutton, American heiress, December 30, 1953 – February 20, 1954; in the settlement he received a coffee plantation in the Dominican Republic, another B-25, polo ponies, jewelry, and she paid him a reported $2.5 million.
Odile Rodin, French actress, age 19, October 27, 1956 – July 5, 1965 (his death). It is believed that he dated Marilyn Monroe for a short time.
His playboy lifestyle was matched by stories of his sexual prowess. His larger than average penis size inspired Parisian waiters to name gigantic pepper mills “Rubirosas”.

Lots of gold in this portion of his bio. Porfirio was a boss of bosses because he flipped the script on the women he was involved with. Take note of what he received in these settlements: millions of dollars, cars, fleets, horses, jewelry and a plantation. This is a level of game that is above and beyond the ordinary. While I have personal experience regarding this type of game, I have never really written about it. Perhaps I will in the future. Point is, is that clearly his Frame control was off the charts. While I’m a firm believer in a man building his own wealth, I believe he used his talent (getting women) to get where he wanted in life. No player hate in this corner.


Rubi sure didn’t marry her for her looks. Fucking A’.

After World War II, Rubirosa became engaged in two major passions, polo and car racing, both expensive sports that would be supported in years to come by his American wives. He organized and led his own polo team Cibao-La Pampa that was an often successful contender for the Coupe de France cup. Rubirosa played polo until the end of his life. In the same period, Rubirosa started to acquire fast cars and form friendships with race car drivers. He would own a number of Ferraris. His first race at 24 Hours of Le Mans took place in June 1950 with his partner Pierre Leygonie, and his second race, this time with Innocente Baggio, was four years later; in both races his car did not finish. Rubirosa participated in a number of races at Sebring, all but once as a private entry.

Rubirosa entered one Formula One race, in 1955, the Grand Prix de Bordeaux on April 25. He planned to drive his own Ferrari 500, identical to the one which brought Alberto Ascari the 1952 and 1953 Drivers’ World Championship. However, he fell ill before the race and did not drive.

The trend of most playboys being involved in car racing makes plenty of sense. There is a rush when car racing and men with extreme interests (i.e. bedding multiple women) are drawn to experiencing the rush of life, and this passion fits neatly in that arena. It’s also interesting how his wives supported his racing habit. I have to pause and laugh for a minute because this is classic as hell. I wonder what he would think about the social media thirst from ‘men’ today commenting on girls’ photos and begging to take them to fancy dinners. I imagine he would laugh his ass off.

Rubirosa died at age 56 early in the morning on July 5, 1965, when he crashed his Ferrari 250 GT into a chestnut tree after an all-night celebration at the Paris nightclub “Jimmy’s” in honor of winning the Coupe de France polo cup.

You couldn’t write a more fitting ending for this guy’s life. Let’s re-cap: He’s out partying with a champion polo player and pals, then smashes his Ferrari into a tree. Couldn’t make this shit up. Jokes aside, the real lesson here is to Uber your ass when you’re drunk. Seriously. I’m sure it’s saved my life plenty of times.


Here’s a few interesting quips about his life that I find interesting. Also, if you find this article interesting and hell, who wouldn’t, check out this book on him, The Last Playboy. Here’s the cover picture and you can search Amazon to buy it.


“Porfirio Rubirosa — Rubi to his friends — was good-looking, although at 5ft 8in far from tall, and was born into a middle-class family from the Caribbean backwater of the Dominican Republic.”

In my opinion I don’t think he has matinee idol looks, but he wasn’t an ugly dude. For you shorter guys out there who beat yourself up for being on the short side, take note of his height. If you have game, you will get laid. Whether you’re 6’5″, or 5’5″. Develop your strengths, strengthen your weaknesses and your bed won’t be empty.

“Famously, his attraction lay not only in his mesmerizing charm but his bedroom prowess — and his remarkable physical endowment. Along the Riviera and in the nightclubs of Paris and Manhattan, Rubi was known as ‘Toujours Pret’ — always ready — and the large pepper mills in Parisian restaurants came to be known as ‘Rubirosas’ in homage his impressive appendage.”

I’ve talked about dick size in this article, but a couple of key things to note here. 

1. He was hung like a horse. Did that get him some repeat bangs? Of course.

2. If you have some size on your, or more importantly, if you’re great in bed, the girls you fuck will talk and then you will get Social Circle Pussy. The girls gossip, then they try to bed you, “Just to see what you’re like!”. 

3. You still have to have game even if you’re packing. Why? Because you still have approach, talk to the girl, seduce her and then get her naked and all of that generally happens WITHOUT her knowing your cock size. 

“Yet, as a new biography makes clear, his rise to fame and riches was due as much to his ruthlessness as his virility. What distinguished him from other handsome young seducers was his astuteness, his ability to spot a vulnerable rich woman, to know the moment to strike and to make her feel desired and wanted.”

It’s called knowing what women will be most receptive to your style of game. Knowing when a girl is DTF, who could potentially be good harem material, or LTR worthy, is a part of developing all around game.

“Rubi had been unfaithful from the start of their marriage, but in Paris his womanizing became relentless. If Flor remonstrated when he came home covered in lipstick, he would lash out with his fists.
Eventually she fled back home and they divorced. She later denigrated his sexual technique, complaining that he went on so long she grew bored. Nonetheless, for years after their divorce she continued to sleep with him whenever they met up.”

Hmmm sound familiar? Before the break-up: “You have the biggest dick and this is the BEST sex of my life!”

After the break-up: “You are a terrible lay, your dick is small and I’ll never sleep with you again!”

New Text (2:15am) “hey baby can I come over?”

Game, set, match. Women operate from an emotional place 99.9% of the time. Take their compliments and jabs with a grain of salt.

Now jobless and penniless — Trujillo had sacked him from his job as ‘Inspector of Embassies’ — Rubi was in desperate need of money. When a jeweller he knew asked him to retrieve some jewels from Madrid, then in the midst of civil war, Rudi agreed.
But he returned with — he said — only some of the jewels, claiming that the rest, worth some $180,000, had been lost when his car was shot at in an ambush; an unlikely explanation, as the car bore no bullet holes. He had, of course, stolen them.
Rubi further enriched himself by selling Dominican visas at inflated prices to Jews wishing to flee Nazi persecution as war loomed in Europe.
With his newfound wealth, he had a nose job (he had always hated his broad nose). The best barber in Paris cut his hair, and the best tailor made his suits. His bespoke underpants were shipped over from London’s Jermyn Street and his shoes were handmade.

Dude was a hustler through and through. Also note, he rocked custom made suits with his new wealth. Gents, I think there could be something to suit game…

At a party, not long after the Nazi occupation of Paris began in 1940, Rubi met the beautiful young French actress Danielle Darrieux.
‘Be careful, this man is dangerous,’ warned the hostess, but within weeks Danielle had left her husband for him.

Women love a man of mystery, a suit rocking playboy, and a bad-boy who can make her wet. This will never change.

“His seduction technique could be crude: seated next to a beautiful woman at dinner, he would take her hand and place it on his lap to show her just how exciting he found her.”

Note that this excerpt is from a woman’s point of view on a liberal online website. Reality is, this is the oldest trick in the book: every advanced player at one point in time (at least) has pulled this off. Guess what haters? It works. Women get wet over dominant masculine actions. This is one of them )when timed properly).

Doris grew increasingly clingy and needy, while Rubi became cold and distant. One night, in despair, she slit her wrists. She was rushed to hospital, where she had a blood transfusion. She survived, but the marriage did not — it had lasted just two years.

Here is a glimpse of the dark side of Deep Conversion Game. When used to the extreme, some women will react like this. That’s why it’s key to ensure that you’re not using it with every girl you meet, just the ones you want to be loyal and committed to you.

Like Doris Duke, Barbara showered him with gifts including an estate in the Dominican Republic and another B25 plane, but he continued to humiliate her with his infidelity and cruelty. One night, at a dinner party, she punched him and walked out. Rubi merely shrugged, then flew off to join Zsa Zsa Gabor. The marriage was over: it had lasted a mere three months, but once again left Rubi considerably richer.

Law of Abundance in action. He didn’t flip out, but instead controlled his emotions and went to see another girl. Take note.

Again, he resumed his playboy career, drifting from Monaco to Capri, from the beaches to the ski slopes, and one woman’s bed to another — the Press charted his conquests from film star Rita Hayworth to Queen Soraya of Iran — until in Paris in 1956, aged 47, he met a pretty 19-year-old actress named Odile Rodin.
‘I’ve heard much about you, Monsieur,’ she told him. ‘None of it good.’ But like all the others, her resistance soon crumbled and before long they were lovers, then were married.

But, but, but he was 47yo? Isn’t that too old to be with a 19yo? No. It’s not. Men of high value prefer the company of young, feminine, attractive women. Period. Also note how she said essentially, “You’re bad news” and still hooked up with him. When a woman says that, she’s saying “I’m wet, I’m losing control, I want you, but I have to say this to rationalize it. It’s all your fault”. Game on.

When his benefactor Trujillo was assassinated, in the Caribbean in a military coup, Rubi’s job with the Dominican embassy evaporated — and with it his income. He was forced to sell the grand Paris townhouse and move to the suburbs.
In his 50s, Rubi could still stay out all night drinking, but it would take him two days to recover. Often he would remain at home while Odile went out, taking lovers of her own.
‘All my life I’ve controlled women,’ he admitted. ‘Every woman I’ve ever met, except this one. She is under my skin.’
But if he had finally found a girl who could tame him, it was too late. In 1965, after drinking all night at the nightclub Jimmy’s in celebration of a polo win, Rubi drove home at 7am and crashed his Ferrari into a tree. The steering column crushed his chest and he died on the way to hospital.
He was 56. He had lived and died fast. After nearly four decades of partying, he had little to show for his life. He had never had children — despite his virility, he was sterile — and had spent all the money he acquired.
His only real legacy to the world was that, in certain restaurants, when people want a pepper mill, they still request a Rubirosa.

Even back then, moving to the suburbs marked the beginning decline of man. Now there’s some interesting things to take note of in this last portion of the article, so pay attention because it’s key.

The last girl he was with essentially began to take control of the relationship. In essence, he lost Frame with her. Now it could be he was too damn tired to even care at that point in his life, or maybe he just put up with her antics because she was a dime with bomb pussy, I don’t know, but you can never lose Frame with a girl. When you do, the relationship is doomed. 

Another point I want to make, is about him not leaving a real legacy. While it’s not his fault he was sterile, so having kids wasn’t an option, I believe that maybe he could have invested some money into something that would have given back to the world on some level.

No matter how much partying you do, no matter how many women you bed, no matter how many private jets you fly in, you still need to leave something of substance behind. When you’re young, it’s easy to only think about having fun, but also stay focused on what you want to do. Have a plan. Work on that plan. Create. Build. Live life, but don’t just take, actually create. If I died tomorrow, this blog and my writing would be at least something that would be left behind to help men everywhere with women and life. It’s not anything close to the legacy I want to leave behind, but it’s a positive start. It’s something that can help men change their lives and I believe that is something worth doing. What is your legacy? What do you want to leave behind?

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6 Replies to “So The Guy Had A Horse C*ck, So What?”

  1. This awesome nugget of wisdom “Women operate from an emotional place 99.9% of the time. Take their compliments and jabs with a grain of salt.” is a key point to pull form this article. Women will almost always bad mouth you when you reject them, say you have a small dick, what an asshole you are, etc. I’ve heard them all over the years. The those same butt-hurt women will be back riding the pony in no time. It’s almost dumbfounding to experience. SO yes gents, don’t let their emotional tantrums OR platitudes get in your head.


  2. ”Many of the legendary playboys were born into extreme wealth and to be honest, that’s not impressive to me.”

    Wholeheartedly agree, and of all the high flyers I’ve met, the self made guys who started at the bottom also seem to be the more charismatic and ‘giving’ in a sense they’re more likely to give help and advice to the next generation of up and comers dealing with the trials and tribulations of life.

    I’ll always remember your story about the boring old guy who made himself look a right turnip when he was showing his iPhone app that controls his house gates.

    Class and sophistication are earned not bought.


  3. Great write up CMQ and solid breakdown of things to learn from Rubirosa. Never heard of this man until reading this post but sounds like he was definitely a legendary playboy. Will definitely check out his biography sometime, thanks.


  4. Rubi was such an interesting man, well worth reading about. He married a murderous dictators daughter & ran around like crazy on her, yet Trujillo was so enamored of Rubi that he turned a blind eye. His love match – so to speak, was none other than Zsa Zsa Gabor, who was quite the stunner of her time. This guy did it all, great choice for this month Christian.


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