(Christian here. Today’s post is a guest post from Kyle over at ThisIsTrouble.com and author of Cracking OkCupid I get inundated with emails about short guy game and I can only write about what I know about. He had approached me about writing a guest post to do with this exact same subject and after having seen him in action one night in Hollywood, I felt confident he could provide real value and insight into this topic. This post also is replacing today’s premium podcast due to a sore throat that has me sounding like Kermit the Frog. Enjoy.)
I stood in the elevator of the Shangri-La Hotel in Santa Monica and pressed the ground floor button. The elevators at the Shangri-La are extremely small, probably no more than 3×5. You can’t fit more than three people in them without getting pretty intimate. In addition, the dark lighting and decor makes it seem like something you’d see in a horror movie.
“This elevator is scary,” my date remarked, “I wouldn’t want to die in here.”
“It’s pretty sexy in here,” I replied, as I took a step toward her to cross the gap between our bodies. “And, I wouldn’t want to die without doing this,” as I closed the last remaining inches and pressed my lips against hers. She kissed me back enthusiastically and I ran my fingers to the base of her hair, and gave it a gentle tug.
Sometimes cheesy works.
A few seconds into our little make out session, I couldn’t help but chuckle to myself as I realized something.
I was standing on my toes.
Those of us blessed with a height less than six feet have our work cut out for us. We will rarely get the same amount of IOIs that someone with above-average height will receive. We must always deal with shit tests about being “short”.
Simply put: short guys usually have to work harder than tall guys for the same rewards when it comes to women.
It also makes those same rewards that much more rewarding.
I stand 5’8″, maybe 5’9″ on a good day. The girl I mentioned above was about 5’9″, and was wearing three inch heels. She was a gorgeous girl – dark brown hair, was slim, and had a great pair of legs. Christian can attest to this, as I sent him a photo when I first proposed writing this guest post. She is, for all intensive purposes, out of my league from a physical standpoint. However, this isn’t the first time I’ve been with girls who have a few inches on me, and it’s not that difficult to pull off with the right mindset.
How To Date Girls Taller Than You
1.) Realize that you are probably average height, not “short”.
First off, you need to have a mindset shift before you dive in to go after tall girls. Yes, the average American male height is about 5’9.5″ but just because you’re 5’7″ doesn’t mean that you’re short. Short has an extremely negative connotation, so it’s important to get that out of your head.
It is similar to fat chicks calling themselves curvy, but there’s nothing you can do about height. You shouldn’t think of yourself as any less worthy because of your height. Speaking of fat…
2.) You can be average height, but you can’t be fat or super skinny.
Short of shooting yourself up with some human growth hormone, there is nothing you can do about your height. There is plenty you can do about the rest of your body.\
I used to be pretty fat myself, and there’s no way I’d have a chance with girls three inches taller than me if I was still at that weight.
Having a good physique helps to offset the height difference.
3.) Never bring up the height difference in an insecure way.
Frankly, it’s better off just to not bring up the height difference at all. If she’s entertaining your interaction, or on a date with you, you know she likes you. It’s best not to let any of your own insecurities bubble to the surface and give her any reason to doubt you. Therefore, phrases or questions such as the following are completely off limits:
– Does it bother you that you’re taller than me?
– Do you always wear heels like that?
– Have you ever dated a shorter man?
If she’s tall – she’s probably dated shorter men and has come to terms with it. Or (hopefully), she’s a nice girl who doesn’t care about something that you can’t control anyway.
Now, you can bring it up in a humorous way. You must have a strong frame when doing this, though. A little self-depreciating humor can go a long way towards showing her that you don’t care about the height difference.
Remember that women want to follow a strong man, so if you can show her you’re at ease with the height difference through humor, it may help to alleviate any doubts she has.
For example, the first venue I went to on my date was to an outdoor bar. It was absolutely packed and there was no where to sit, other than a couple tree stumps that are utilized as stools. I made a big deal and made her sit on the small one, proclaiming that the small stump was “the seat for the midgets.”
Other examples of humor which are acceptable (if done correctly) is telling her to let you sit on her shoulders for a better view, or asking if you can borrow her heels. Obviously, this should all be done in a goofy manner – frame is very critical. If you are at all insecure about your height, these can (and will) backfire on you.
Use with caution.
4.) If she brings up the height difference, smash the shit test out of the park.
There is a good chance that at some point or another, she will bring up your respective heights. This has nothing to do with how she feels about you in most cases.
What she wants is the assurance that you are a strong man who isn’t bothered by something like that.
Your mileage may vary, but common shit tests she might throw at you include:
– You’re shorter than me.
– Do you like taller girls?
– I like to wear heels, A LOT.
Your responses can be as simple as you’d like.
– You’re shorter than me. Yep, I sure am.
– Do you taller girls? Who doesn’t love girls with legs?
– I like to wear heels, A LOT. ME TOO! I have a ten inch pair that I almost wore tonight.
Simply follow the usual methods of dealing with shit tests. Either agree and amplify to ridiculous proportions, or give short, dodging answers and change the topic. Personally, I always prefer the agree and amplify method.
5.) Be extra dominant.
Women want to feel small. They want to feel dominated. You can make her feel this way even if you’re shorter than her. It doesn’t make logical sense, but most things don’t when it comes to women.
If you’re going after taller girls, you may want to up the usual dominance. I got pretty aggressive from the opening kiss with this girl by pulling her hair in the elevator. I’ve had girls on my bed who shit tested me about my height as I was taking off their clothes.
My response to that is to throw them on the bed and ask if the height difference bothers them after I get on top of them. So far, I haven’t had any of them object after that point.
Because you don’t have the height dominance over them, you have to show it in other ways.
6.) Going after taller girls takes confidence, and they love that.
Most men do not go after girls that are taller than them. If you choose to go after tall girls, bat away their shit tests, and prove that you don’t care that they’re taller – it simply oozes confidence off of you.
You must also remember that some of these girls are not being approached as much as others because of their height.
Guys who are above six feet tall are just as likely to go after a girl who is 5’1″ as they are the girl who is 5’11”. Height doesn’t matter to men as much as a pretty face, BMI, boobs, and ass do. Therefore, the tall girls actually will have less options in the dating market because many shorter men won’t give them a chance.
You will stand out as an above average man with extreme confidence if you are willing to approach taller women without it phasing you out.
The story with the girl from the elevator is still in progress. We made out more, she drove me home, but wouldn’t come up to my apartment. Regardless of what happens in the future with her, the important thing is that I crossed that gap and went for it.
Even if I had to stand on my toes.
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