The Negative Effects of Porn Addiction on Your Confidence and Game

(Christian here. Today’s post is a guest post from David de las Morenas from HowToBeast.com and co-host of the Beastly Gentlemen Podcast.)

Internet pornography will ruin your confidence… if you let it.

It’s one of the most common “bad habits” that guys share.

It’s so common that researchers have trouble studying it because there’s hardly anyone to put into a control group of men who actually abstain from watching it on a regular basis.

In fact, I’d even venture to guess that most of us have been “addicted” to it, in the clinic sense, at some point in our lives. I know I have…

During one summer break from school I’d jerk it three times a day on average, all while sitting in the darkness of my parent’s basement. Needless to say, I was getting ZERO pussy at this point in my life. And my self-confidence was pretty much nonexistent, too.

I’ve gotten to the point where I almost never jerk off… and I certainly never feel like I “have to”. And it’s no coincidence that my belief in myself – and particularly my ability to attract women – is as high as ever.
Is this all because I don’t jerk it to internet porn anymore? Of course not.

There’s a lot of other bullshit I’ve gone through since then. And a lot of growth and development I’ve experienced in different areas of my life. But quitting porn undoubtedly played a role in my journey, and not a negligible one, either.

The “Argument” For Porn

Before I get into all the reasons you shouldn’t watch porn, I’ll take a second to address the usual bullshit excuses I hear guys make all the time in regards to watching porn.

First of all, I get it – busting a nut to the sight of a busty blonde chick feels damn good. It releases hormones and neurotransmitters in your brain that cause you to experience pleasurable feelings.

Doing hard drugs like meth feels good, too. But you probably have enough chromosomes to realize that that’s not a good call. The negative side effects outweigh the simple pleasurable feelings you experience from doing it… and the same is true with porn.

Another purported benefit is that watching porn teaches you how to have good sex. And sure, I buy this excuse. But you only need to watch so many hours of porn to get the gist of it… and I’m sure you’ve already seen enough by now to have reaped all those benefits, my man. (Alternatively, just read Christian’s post on How to Fuck Like a Pornstar)

A final reason I’ve seen cited for watching porn is that it can cause you to see women as sexual objects, which will somehow improve your game.

I personally think this is completely bogus.

If you need to “trick” your mind into thinking women are just sexual objects in order to talk to them without shitting your pants, then you’ve got some serious work to do…

At this point, your insecurities are over-powering any sense of self-worth you have, and a heavy dose of self-improvement and general practice is needed… not more porn.

Ok, now that I’ve covered the few reasons why porn might be a “good” thing, below are five critical negative side effects that watching porn will have on your self-confidence, your game, and your life…

1. Reduced motivation to go out and find real women

This one is obvious. And this is why people joke about getting married to your hand or going home to please your hand when you clearly aren’t getting any.

While this makes a solid joke, it’s also pretty damn true. If you get in the habit of satisfying your sexual urges by watching other people have sex on your computer screen, then why put any effort into going out and approaching real women? It’s so much harder…

2. Sexual dysfunction

Your brain can get used to being turned on and aroused by seeing pixels moving around on a screen. And if you do it enough times – especially without having any real sex – your brain can fail to be turned on by the feeling of being with a real women.

Her touch won’t turn you on. And it won’t get you hard, either.

You can essentially train your brain to favor internet porn over real sex. This ability of our brains to “rewire” themselves is called neuroplasticity… and it’s a real thing.

3. Unrealistic sexual expectations

What you see in porn simply doesn’t match up to reality…

Even when you’re having crazy sex with a smoking hot girl, it’s not like what you see in porn.

Pornstars wear absurd amounts of makeup (just google “pornstars without makeup” to see how nasty most of them are). Most of them have fake tits and fake butts. On top of that, porn sets consist of all types of professional lighting equipment. And porn cameramen are trained to film from specific angles that you’ll never see while actually having sex.

And when you get used to seeing the product of all this work and technology, real sex can often seem underwhelming… And this isn’t to say that it’s “worse” than porn. It’s just a completely different beast.

4. Pedestalizing women and the act of sex

This might be the biggest reason that watching porn will hurt your game.

When you watch loads of internet porn, you get used to viewing sex rather than participating in it… And this can be devastating. It can make sex seem less and less like reality, and more and more like a dream or fantasy.

And then you’re fucked.

Because you’ll start to see women as objects of your dreams and fantasies rather than just other human beings… who are probably down to have sex with you.

5. Perversion

One disturbing trend is how you can fall into needing more and more “extreme” varieties of porn to get aroused. Men can progress from watching regular porn to threesomes to gang bangs to rape scenes to… you catch my drift.

And I don’t think I need to spell out to you why this will fuck up your brain, your confidence, and your sexual expectations.
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Given all the potential negative side effects that masturbating to internet porn can cause you, it’s simply not worth doing… Especially if you’re in a place where you’re really working to develop your confidence and your game.

It’s in these crucial moments of your life that you break through, make large strides, and transform yourself… or give up and become complacent.

And this makes bad habits like watching porn all the more dangerous, and all the more risky. The downside simply outweighs any marginal benefits that you can gain from doing it. So give it up.

(Christian here again. I’m curious, what is your opinion on the negative effects of porn. Leave your opinion below. Thanks!)

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21 Replies to “The Negative Effects of Porn Addiction on Your Confidence and Game”

  1. As a woman I really appreciate this article. I had a partner who was addicted to porn and I just sent him this. Hope it helps!

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  2. Nothing is true in porn. All fake. Women gets silicon implant to their breast (upto 800 gm silicon per breast by surgery), they pretend that they enjoying very much, all founds are fake just acting to get money by it. It is a business no truth no reality. It dont educate people instead it misguide, mislead and create biasness. All things done by camera, many camera at a time,try to get best angel by camera, editing, viewers cant differentiate what is real what is artificial for example in many cases mens semen is not actual it is artificial mix which looks like real and by editing they make it like that it comes from penis only. Porn is just fake acting and people working in it like female are not beautiful in real life. It is the effect of plastic surgery, makeup and other things. All worker are drug and alcohol addicts. For 20 minutes movie they shoot for more than 10 hours with gap between shoots. The life of workers in this industry is very short maximum 2-3 years sometimes only months. The rate of suicide in these actors are much higher. It just make you fool and many thought that whatever we are watching on screen are true sex but it is kind of fiction. female orgasm is totally fake. Different poses are the effect of technology. so basically more than 95 % fake. it is shot like that viewer become addicted to it.

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  3. Great post McQueen. Although it’s nothing new around these parts, it bears repeating. I don’t watch any porn these days and it does make you that much more sexually aggressive with REAL women which they love(that whole being dominated thing). Too many “releases” from jerking off can also start feminizing you in a weird way-you’ll lose that edge when running game.

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    1. This is completely true from my experience. Abstaining really makes you feel like you really have to “unleash the beast” when you’re actually having sex.

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  4. Very timely post Christian, thanks for posting it – helps me to reinforce my progress.

    As of now, I’ve been 61 days no Internet Porn or Masturbation. Research says it takes 66 days to change a habit. Been feeling pretty fucking amazing.

    For the longest time I didn’t believe porn addiction. Thought it was feminists brainwashing us with their agenda. Was extremely to spot this addictive habit as the culprit because even after jerking it 2-3 times a day, I still have motivation/energy to go out to daygame and nightgame.

    It got to the point where I got so fuckin low and empty with my life from masturbating. Just angry with myself and who I am – that I decided to do the ‘nofap’ challenge, as they call it, and I’ve never felt better. Significantly reduced approach anxiety in day/night game, consistent confidence and mood, MUCH MORE energy, and social intuition with girls are better than ever.

    Sometimes in life, you just gotta hit rock bottom to know how disgusting and awful it feels deep in your soul, that you never want to go back there again.

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  5. I think watching porn and masturbating too much is one of the most important things we can give up as men to improve ourselves. If you look at a man who doesn’t get laid, low self esteem, etc. and then ask him when was the last time he watched porn and/or masturbated, 99% time I’m sure the answer would be within the last week.

    It’s an unnatural thing. We have lived as man longer without porn than with. With this in mind, you can see the modern day problems it has created.

    I went 3 months straight without doing either and I felt like an animal, in the best sense of the word. This is also the time I was getting laid the most consistently, felt great with great energy levels, and had better sex/sexual relationships. Overall, I just felt like a pure man/animal, for lack of better words. It was great.

    I was also very busy during these times. If you are not staying busy during first giving up porn/fap, it will be very difficult to stay away from it and a relapse is sure to occur. Staying busy and distracted is key to success I believe.

    Thanks for this as I let porn get back into my life for a bit and now it’s time to say goodbye to it again once and for all.

    Goodluck gents.

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    1. “I went 3 months straight without doing either and I felt like an animal, in the best sense of the word. This is also the time I was getting laid the most consistently, felt great with great energy levels, and had better sex/sexual relationships. Overall, I just felt like a pure man/animal, for lack of better words. It was great.

      I was also very busy during these times. If you are not staying busy during first giving up porn/fap, it will be very difficult to stay away from it and a relapse is sure to occur. Staying busy and distracted is key to success I believe.”

      I agree going to get rest thanks for bringing that up. Nature is a mans world porns in large part is a women’s. Least froma financial since.

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  6. You are, of course aware that some of the pics on your blog are pornographic.

    Also this anti-masturbation thing only makes sense if you intend to actually make babies.

    Otherwise, as far as Darwin is concerned, you’re no better than us wankers.

    Just sayin’.

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    1. Who’s saying to quit jerking off completely?

      Everything in balance. If a dude is jerking it everyday and finds he has an addiction, then he has a problem.

      If a guy goes out, doesn’t pull and jerks it once a week, then he’s probably not addicted and it’s healthy.

      I wouldn’t consider topless girls porn, but I’m more european in that way.

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  7. If you’re one of those basement bottom dwellers David mentioned in the article you’re not gonna change yourself overnight; It’s gonna take time.

    Is he saying no porn or no jerking off till you get laid? That could be months if you are this guy:

    While I agree porn is devastating, but no release at all?

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    1. Michael,

      Good question. The issue is porn ADDICTION, not jerking off once in a while.

      The problem is that porn is naturally an addiction-prone activity (given it’s cycle of craving, doing, and getting the “reward”). And with these types of things, it’s often an all-or-nothing approach if you’re someone who has existing issues with it.

      I think one full month of no porn, followed by a once-per-week allowance is a solid option if you’re not getting laid.

      David

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  8. Hey CMQ,

    I had some serious issues with ED and I came to realise that those problems were due to porn addiction. I was pretty much fucked up. you guys have no idea how much free content you’ve put out there to help guys like me. Thanks to all of you: CMQ, Rollo, Roosh, Krauser, Tom Torero, Jack Donovan, Roissy. You guys have transformed my life. the progress is so evident that I am already mentoring a 19 years old kid.This brotherhood has changed my life for ever.

    cheers and thanks for being my wingman in spirit,

    MG

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  9. Chrisian that was the most appropriate post for me. Had a huge relapse with porn this morning and well everything you wrote about covers a huge deal of my issue with meeting women having confidence holding Frame and being better at dealing with myself.
    Thank you

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