Today’s post is from a Los Angeles local, a grown man, a successful man, a man who’s fed up with the women of Los Angeles. I met ‘D-Dub’ (his pen name due to business purposes) at a cigar bar in Los Angeles.
We were doing as men do in cigar bars. Smoking and chopping it up discussing everything from business to chicks.
During the conversation a tall blonde woman most men would give their left nut for, stumbled over and sloppily sprawled across his lap. She was drunk. It was only around 8pm on a Saturday evening. He rolled his eyes and gave me a look of exasperation. He knew the girl, she being in his group located a few tables away.
The lack of class didn’t shock me.
It’s common to see giraffe leg models stumbling around bars, clubs and rooftop lounges here in Los Angeles like a blind man trying to find the curb.
But his response did surprise me. You see many guys have ZERO game in Los Angeles. Hell, in the world for that matter. But the fact that he didn’t cater to her every whim intrigued me. She stumbled away in search of her next ADHD ‘fix’ and he mentioned how he had written something about how women in Los Angeles are undateable.
Note, he didn’t say unfuckable.
There are thousands upon thousands of fuckable women in Los Angeles. It’s like a Pussy Buffet.
Want an asian? Hit up Koreatown, or a downtown rooftop.
Want a blonde white chick? Throw a rock in Hollywood and you’ll surely peg a bottle blonde in the head.
But what about DATING?
What about actual GIRLFRIEND material?
What about *gasp* a chick you could maybe marry and have kids with?
Do they exist in the city of Lost Angels?
Fast-forward and D-Dub sent me the article to post here on my blog.
Now note that this article is based on interviewing MULTIPLE OTHER MEN in Los Angeles, so this isn’t just one man’s opinion of the dating scene.
It’s a myriad of opinions from men from different backgrounds, incomes, etc.
And for the ladies reading who might think, “Well, D-Dub is probably a short, fat. balding, guy who doesn’t make money and lives in his mom’s basement!”, you’d be incorrect in that judgement. D-Dub resembles Kaskade (the Dj for you people living in caves), has a great career etc. So take what he’s saying with an open mind and maybe, just maybe if you apply it you’ll ‘find’ the men who actually want to date you and not just fuck you.
Lastly, do me and every man who’s ever stepped foot in LA a favor. It’s easy.
Send this article to EVERY girl you know. Post it on Facebook, any social media you use apps, etc. Let’s get this article out there together.
Here’s his thoughts on the undatable women of Los Angeles.
On a recent guys night out, my friends and I discussed the challenges we face dating girls in LA. I realized quickly my friends and I had very similar challenges. I decided to take this discussion outside of my small group of friends and interviewed friends of friends, random guys at the bar, etc.
Although there were many common challenges that came up, there were three that came up the most.
Here are the top three recurring reasons that single guys say they struggle with dating L.A. girls and ultimately can’t, or won’t get in a relationship with them.
1. Texting (a mandatory step in the pursuing process):
Girls simply put too much emphasis on what a guy says in a text and when he sends the text.
It seems, If a girl get’s one text she doesn’t like, the whole thing is finished.
He rarely even gets a chance to clarify, explain, defend or apologize for the text. It meant what she thinks it meant and that’s the end of it!
Almost every guy said they have had at least one girl stop corresponding with him because of something they did or didn’t do in a text.
Here are what the guys assumed went wrong: They texted too soon; They texted too late; Their text made them come off too mean, too nice, too needy, too allusive, too interested, not interested enough; too ordinary, too creepy (misinterpreted texts, very common answer).
The bottom line is this; guys feel that girls have made it almost impossible for guys to send a text without getting over judged on its content and/or timing.
Guys feel they can’t live up to girl’s expectations of what has now become a mandatory step in the dating process.
2. Too many distractions.
Most guys stated they can’t compete with all the different options a girl has on any given night in Los Angeles.
They feel they have to compete with all the bigger better events at a girl’s exposure.
Back in the day people had to hunt down places to go and people to see. Now Facebook, texting, apps, etc. are constantly reminding girls of all of their options, all the time, right at their fingertips.
Men feel like unless they have an amazing event to offer the girl (great seats at the Staples center, reservations at a 5 star restaurant, etc.), they can’t expect a girl to accept a date.
They say its common for a girl to hold off on getting back to them or make an excuse why they need a day or two to decide if they are available.
Guys feel there is never a right time to ask a girl out on a date anymore. If you ask a girl out 2 days away or more, she won’t accept it because something better might come up. If it’s less than 2 days away, she won’t accept it because she feels he asked her out at the last minute.
3. Sense of entitlement.
This was the #1 reason guys said they have a hard time finding a relationship worthy girl in L.A.
Traditionally, guys pay for everything on the first date. Taking a girl out for dinner and/or drinks in Los Angeles, even an inexpensive night, is usually around $100.
Most guys said they are completely fine with this tradition and insist on paying, but they say the girls of LA show very little gratitude, if any, at all.
Somewhere along the line spending your money and time on a girl isn’t special to them at all. It’s expected.
They said most girls give a half-hearted thank you or don’t even thank them at all for the date.
The guys also said it is commonplace that girls almost never offer to pick up a tab or even a single round of drinks even after their third or fourth date.
Is it asking too much for girls to make a little more effort?
To relax their emphasis they put on texting?
To offer to pay for something on at least the 3rd date? Yes it is. At least that’s what the guys I interviewed think.
They believe most LA girls who read this, will not only disagree with this, but they will also feel insulted. But it’s not fair to give problems without solutions. So, here are the remedies for those who are interested.
Remedy #1: Texting.
Well, a remedy for the texting sounds easy enough; just have a phone conversation instead.
When we asked these guys why not just call instead, almost 100% say they’ve tried, but most girls will not take a phone call anymore.
The guys said they asked girls why they wont take a call anymore and they said because they are so used to texting, they find phone calls awkward.
Some girls even admitted calling makes a guy look too interested/desperate.
So, the remedy for the text problem is that girls need to put much less emphasis on texting.
Don’t read too much into (over interpret) a text. Worry less about “when” he sent it and focus more on the fact that he did reach out.
Worry less about how interesting or perfect the content of the text was and focus more on the fact the he did reach out. If you were interested in him when you met, then why does he need to go through another whole round of qualifying through texting?
Just trust your initial instinct and get in front of him again, person to person.
Remedy #2: Distractions.
If a guy is nice enough to ask you on a date, you should immediately tell him yes or no.
Don’t tell him you need to get back to him or wait 24 hours to get back to him.
If you think that you have something else going on the proposed night out, immediately tell him no and give him another night you are free.
When you don’t get back to him or tell him you need time to figure it out, he thinks you are optioning him for something bigger and better.
Even if you have a legitimate reason that you aren’t sure if you are available that particular night, it’s still better to say no and plan another night because he will think you are optioning him, whether you are or you aren’t.
He will interpret this as flaky, unreliable, or assume you lost interest in him. If you are still interested in him, and you still want to see him again, then you need to avoid the distractions or at least handle them properly and keep yourself dateable.
Remedy #3: Sense of Entitlement.
Ironic that the biggest problem is the easiest fix.
Simply take the time at the end of the night to tell him thank you.
Extra points if you get specific about things that you enjoyed about the night: the food was good, the place was nice, etc.
And now to the hardest part of this remedy: pay for something.
Not on the first date, but probably shortly thereafter.
The reality is this, the guys we interviewed said they are so used to always paying for everything, all the time, that it’s not a deal breaker if a girl doesn’t pitch in, but when a girl does buy even just one round, it’s so unusual and unexpected, it means everything to the guy.
It makes that woman look confident, caring, considerate and most importantly, not entitled. It sends all the right messages to the guy.
There is simply no easier way to say you are dateable than by showing this good gesture that practically no other girls are doing. So buy an occasional drink for the guy, or at least offer. And always say thank you everytime someone takes you out.
You lost your attraction to him? I wonder why….
One last thing girls should take away from this.
A guy will come off as unattractive to the girl he is pursuing when she doesn’t do the things that make her dateable.
Why? Girls don’t like when guys don’t act like a confident man.
They don’t like when he acts needy, desperate, cheap, weak, too sensitive, etc.
When a girl blows off a guy’s text because it wasn’t the perfect text or wasn’t sent at the perfect time, he can either not follow up with her again and that will likely put an end to it or he has to follow up with her again and she will perceive that as weak or desperate and he will seem less attractive to her now.
When a girl options a guy for another event (distraction), if he accepts this he looks weak, if he doesn’t, he looks too sensitive, either way, he looks less attractive to her now.
If a guy ever, ever, ever, asks a girl to tell him thanks for taking her out or asks her to pitch in on the bill (and he shouldn’t) they are most definitely finished. It’s the girls job to NOT put the guy in a no win position. He will come off looking unattractive to her and she will seem un-dateable to him.
She needs to make herself dateable.
Here is the remedies list summarized.
This list of tips is for girls who are still interested in the guy she met, or just went on a date with, and would like to see him again.
1. If he calls you, answer the phone or call him back within a few hours. Sending a text saying you can’t talk right now but will call him back soon is fine, provided you actually call him back.
2. If he calls you, whether he leaves you a voice message or not, don’t text back with intentions of having a text conversation instead of calling him.
3. If he sends you a text, request him to call you. Tell him you’d rather chat on the phone. I know most girls won’t do this cause they are too concerned they will come off looking “too interested”, but honestly, it’s just a phone call.
4. Widen your acceptance on when he calls/texts you. This means, most girls seem to lose interest or won’t respond if a guy doesn’t reach out to her before or after a certain time has passed from the time she gave him her number. That timeframe seems to be somewhere between 2 days to 3 days later. I suggest you widen your time frame to between 1 and 5 days later. Worry less about when he reached out, and focus more on that he “did” reach out.
5. Focus less on whether or not he sent a wonderful text that brings back all the great feelings when you first met. It’s nice to get that, but if you liked him in the first place, don’t give up on him just because his text wasn’t extraordinary.
6. Texting should not be a mandatory 2nd round of qualification for the guy (see tip #5) (Note: this does not include the obnoxious rude guy who texts something completely inappropriate.)
7. If he text you asking you when or if you are free or even better, suggests a specific night for you to get together, don’t wait a long time to respond. Also, Don’t ask him if you can get back to him. If you aren’t sure you are free, tell him no and give him a night you are sure you’re free.
8. If you have to cancel a date, call him and explain why, then offer him another day you are free. Texting this is not a good idea. Call him.
9. If you have to cancel, reach out to him first. Don’t wait for him to check in with you only to find out you aren’t going. It says you are inconsiderate and/or forgot about the date altogether or didn’t care enough about him to let him know.
10. Don’t cancel the date just because something better came up. But if you absolutely have something you have to cancel it for, handle it appropriately (see tip 9)
11. Be grateful that a guy took you out. You need to tell him thank you at the end of the night and mean it.
12. On the second date, offer to pick up a round of drinks.
13. On the third date, buy a round of drinks without even offering.
14. If you think these tips don’t work, ask one of your guy friends what he thinks about them and listen to what he says.
15. Be open-minded and ok with being different. If doing these tips feels awkward cause “nobody else ” does them dating in L.A., then keep doing the same thing as everyone else and expect the same results.
Agree, or Disagree? Leave a comment below with YOUR opinion.
CMQ here with some final words…
Ladies, you might be flinging your latte-double-bullshit frothy Starfucks cup across the room right now. Right into the wall of the apartment your sugar daddy pays for.
You might be distracted already by the multiple pings of endorphin’s blazing through your brain every time you get a ‘Like’ on your Instagram or SnatchChat.
You might be narrowing your eyes into beady death-stares as you read this article, but careful. Too much crinkling of the eyes and before you know it they won’t let a crows-feet chick into 1Oak.
Before you know it you’ll age. Gasp, yes I said age.
When this happens remember that all the guys who you wouldn’t date before are now wise, further ahead in life, value has gone up even more and they want nothing to do with you.
So read this article with an open mind. Consider that maybe, just maybe, we could be right. If your ego won’t let you, then I truly feel bad for you as the road ahead will be rocky full of pointless Tinder fucks and guys who will never date you.
That might seem great for a time, but then that ache is gonna hit you. No, not the ache in your pussy after getting it pounded 9 ways from Sunday. I mean that OTHER ache. The one in your heart. The void that can’t get filled now matter how many times your mouth, pussy and asshole get filled by limitless miles of cock.
Consider something else. Consider trying a different way. Consider that there are men who will date you, take you serious and not just think of you as a cum-dumpster; if you act like a woman worth pursuing.
Or not. But don’t come crying to me in a few years (or months) when you’re filled with regret.
We won’t care. We’ll be too busy dating 21 year olds who took this article to heart, adopted the tips and become great women.
Men, you aren’t off the hook either. If you’re not working on yourself, then start today. As in right now, here.