How important is looking good when you’re trying to meet women?
Having solid game is monumentally important. But if you don’t compliment this by looking good, you’re not making the most out of your efforts.
Let’s think about it in terms of your conversion rate.
If we take two similar men, both with the same level of game and income, but we dress one man up in clothes that flatter him and give him a haircut that matches his face shape, which one do you think does better with women?
How many more women will be open to his approach?
10%, 15% maybe 20%?
Who knows? But if you’re not complimenting your game with your style and grooming, you’re shooting yourself in the foot before your approach even begins.
Style, grooming and fitness are all tools a man in demand uses to communicate that he’s the real deal and that he respects himself, as well as insists the respect of others.
You should be actively working towards developing strengths in all those areas to really bring yourself to the next level, but it some takes time.
What we’re going over today are just some simple tips to help boost your level of attractiveness rather quickly and get you better response rates from women when you’re out.
So let’s get into it…
- Grow Out Some Facial Hair
More specifically, grow out 7-10 days worth of stubble. This adds a nice clean look of masculinity. In a study published in the Journal of Evolutionary Biology, researchers asked over 8,000 women to rate the physical attractiveness of men with varying degrees of facial hair.
Men with heavy stubble were rated as the most attractive for short-term flings such as one-night stands and sexual relationships. In short, the men that most women want to have sex with have heavy stubble.
You’ve probably noticed the recent trend in bearded men. Why this is happening, I don’t know. But what you should know is that while our bearded brethren are rated as attractive, they are mostly attractive to women looking for long-term relationships and are perceived to have better parenting qualities than clean-shaven and stubbled men.
I think both a beard and a clean-shaven face can look great, but you should be aware of the women you are potentially attracting. It’s all about the type of girl you want, but in terms of general sexiness, go for some heavy stubble. And God help you if you’re still rocking a chin-strap.
- Look Taller
Guys even just one inch under average height have a significantly harder time getting dates than guys above the average. Also, women who are looking for short-term sexual relationships are more attracted to taller men than women who are looking for something long-term. Shocking I’m sure.
The good news is that each inch you increase your perceived height, the better response rate you’ll have from women. Take a look at this study conducted from Ok-Cupid. As height increases (to a point), unsolicited messages from women increased as well.
However tall you are now, you can increase your response rate from women, both online and offline, by appearing to be taller.
Here are the easy hacks:
- Wear darker, monochromatic colors. Wearing bright colors provides too much contrast between your legs and torso and will shorten your legs. I’d go with dark blues, grays, and blacks.
- On that note, ditch the belt. It creates a visual break when someone is looking you up and down and will accentuate your lack of height.
- Wear slimmer fits in order to create a more streamlined vertical appearance.
- Wear boots or shoes with a heel to them. This can add up to around 1.5” You can actually filter shoes on Amazon/Zappos by heel height. If you want to go further, you can add .5” heel inserts for cheap.
- Wear vertical stripes rather than horizontal stripes.
- Opt for thinner checkered patters rather than thicker gauged ones.
- Add some volume to top of your hair to add height and draw the eye upwards. Hat’s can do this as well.
- When buying suits, make sure your button stance (waist button) is above your navel.
- Wear straight leg pants with no break.
- Never cuff your pants.
- Wear Some Red
In multiple studies, both men and women wearing red were rated as highly attractive but one study in particular in the Journal of Experimental Psychology looked exclusively at how women perceived men who wore red.
Men who wore a red shirt were perceived to be higher status, make more money, and were rated as highly attractive. This is due to both social and biological constructs. Without getting in to too much detail, humans view the color red as a symbol of power. When wearing red, women associate this power with your personality.
Even if it’s not a shirt, just try to add a pop of red somewhere in your outfit when you’re going out. A stylish burgundy hat or deep red pocket square will do the trick. The closer the color is to your face, the better.
- Exercise Before Heading Out
A quick work out before you head out the door is a game changer. It’ll make blood engorge your muscles, calm nerves and give you a nice temporary boost of testosterone. This isn’t the time for a strenuous core routine. Work your “glamour” muscles like your Biceps, Triceps, and Pecs to get a nice quick boost. Even if you can’t get to the gym, bang out a few sets of pushups and you’ll see the benefits.
Pro tip: Avoid working your abs before going out. If you have a bit of a gut, working your abs will push it out and displaying it prominently underneath your shirt. Make your arms bulge, not your belly.
- Slim Down Your Face
Show me a guy with a bloated face and I’ll show you a guy who’s not getting looks from women. When you look bloated, your facial features appear soft and you’ll look much more feminine than you would with a strong jaw line, clear eyes and slim cheeks.
The good news is that a lot of your puffy face can be related directly to water retention. When you drink heavily, don’t have enough water, or consume a bunch of salt and carbs, your face will swell up like a balloon. Stay away from all of that if you want to look your leanest. An easy way to do this is by flushing the sodium out of your system with lots more water or sweating it out with cardio and heavy lifting.
You can also try a cold compress on your face, like a washcloth or wrapped icepack, as well as taking a supplement called dandelion root to help strip away excess water. If you want more tips on leaning out your face, you can pick up the “Hacking the Handsome Jawline” guide by heading to pivotimage.com
So there you have it. Just a few ways you can quickly make yourself more attractive. Just like all things, you have to put in the work to become a truly attractive man. Spending time in the gym, eating right, developing a wardrobe, getting your money right, etc.
But every guy sometimes needs an easy edge.
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About the Author
Patrick Kenger is a men’s image consultant based out of Scottsdale, AZ. He has written and been featured on many reputable men’s lifestyle sites and has helped turn tons of great guys into attractive gentleman. Find out what Patrick can do for you at his website here.